My gf and I have been fighting for the last 5 days. She says I need to do some grand gesture and fight to win her back. She repeatedly says “you just need to do better.” then she says we're working towards our relationship.
It's only been a few days but it is already exhausting. She's called me many derogatory names. I am hoping it will get better as time goes on but to think I need to spend ~$2,000 (I don't even have that much money as a student) for her birthday trip to possibly win her back is hard for me to process.
I love her and think she's the one. I just can't figure out if all this fighting back and spending money is worth it. Then again, I guess $2,000 is not bad in the grand scheme of life. She says if we get together if we mess up one time, she's going to freak out.
I know she's coming back to me. She still says she loves me, she just wants me to work harder. I am wondering if it will get better over time? It hurts me to hear that I need to fight. I don't feel like it's unconditional love.