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Last night I woke up to my BF saying “maybe you should sleep in the other room”
That's such bullshit, if he was so bothered he should have gotten up and slept somewhere else.
Before BF fully woke me up he rolled over, put his arm across me and said something along the lines of “Do you realise how loud you are being?” and I was half asleep (to the point I thought I was dreaming) and said something like “loud doing what?” thinking I was snoring. He didn't reply, I asked again, squeezed his arm but he didn't say anything and rolled back over to the other side. >A lot of you have asked what his problem is, I feel he truly believes I was going to town and wanted to join in (which would have been fine and happened if I was – we have a very happy open and honest sex life), but because I didn't know what the hell was going on, and wasn't masturbating, I denied him that, and then presumably fell back to sleep and carried on “masturbating” without him
You realize that makes it worse right? He sent you away because you denied him sex.
It sounds like she's just getting to know her neighbors. It's important to share contact with people who live! around you in case of emergencies and just for basic situations. As long as she isn't hiding anything then I don't think the neighbor's secretly hitting on your wife lol.
Well it certainly is a reflection on him and not you. I saw you mentioned slacking over the winter, and that's just ridiculous. This is not about your appearance or activity level, it's about the clod you are married to that has no sense of what is appropriate or acceptable.
You must have made him feel very loved and comfortable for him to forget himself and say anything of the kind. I would have shot back about needing to get some parental controls on his internet access since he's apparently taking social cues from 12 year olds.
Well that right there is a fundamental compatibility issue. There really isn't fixing that, OP. You can't change the fact that you are monogamous.
My suggestion is to find someone that is also monogamous.
You're probably saying 'well, duh, I thought she was', but that's the fun of dating. You'll just need to make sure you state date one or two that you would never want an open relationship. The vast majority of people would say 'same'.
She cheated on you then invited ap to your home multiple times and cheated again. You Saud yourself you have zero trust in her and why would you. She also sounds like she has no accountability, just excuses. Say she switches jobs, she's attractive and bubbly someone else is going to make a pass and she has no boundaries.
He can cheat any where any time. You do need to trust that he isn’t, if he’s given you no valid reason. Get your irrational thoughts in check. How exhausting that must be.. aren’t you tired?
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Last night I woke up to my BF saying “maybe you should sleep in the other room”
That's such bullshit, if he was so bothered he should have gotten up and slept somewhere else.
Before BF fully woke me up he rolled over, put his arm across me and said something along the lines of “Do you realise how loud you are being?” and I was half asleep (to the point I thought I was dreaming) and said something like “loud doing what?” thinking I was snoring. He didn't reply, I asked again, squeezed his arm but he didn't say anything and rolled back over to the other side. >A lot of you have asked what his problem is, I feel he truly believes I was going to town and wanted to join in (which would have been fine and happened if I was – we have a very happy open and honest sex life), but because I didn't know what the hell was going on, and wasn't masturbating, I denied him that, and then presumably fell back to sleep and carried on “masturbating” without him
You realize that makes it worse right? He sent you away because you denied him sex.
It sounds like she's just getting to know her neighbors. It's important to share contact with people who live! around you in case of emergencies and just for basic situations. As long as she isn't hiding anything then I don't think the neighbor's secretly hitting on your wife lol.
Well it certainly is a reflection on him and not you. I saw you mentioned slacking over the winter, and that's just ridiculous. This is not about your appearance or activity level, it's about the clod you are married to that has no sense of what is appropriate or acceptable.
You must have made him feel very loved and comfortable for him to forget himself and say anything of the kind. I would have shot back about needing to get some parental controls on his internet access since he's apparently taking social cues from 12 year olds.
My gf wants to have sex with other people
I'm strictly monogamous
Well that right there is a fundamental compatibility issue. There really isn't fixing that, OP. You can't change the fact that you are monogamous.
My suggestion is to find someone that is also monogamous.
You're probably saying 'well, duh, I thought she was', but that's the fun of dating. You'll just need to make sure you state date one or two that you would never want an open relationship. The vast majority of people would say 'same'.
This is not one of those people.
Try again, my man.
She cheated on you then invited ap to your home multiple times and cheated again. You Saud yourself you have zero trust in her and why would you. She also sounds like she has no accountability, just excuses. Say she switches jobs, she's attractive and bubbly someone else is going to make a pass and she has no boundaries.
He can cheat any where any time. You do need to trust that he isn’t, if he’s given you no valid reason. Get your irrational thoughts in check. How exhausting that must be.. aren’t you tired?