End your engagement with your fiance, you are not ready and the stuff about her that bothers you (lack of sex, goals, etc) will not be fixed no matter how long you stay with her or marry her. You guys just arent compatible if these problems keep resurfacing and makes you think twice.
In my honest opinion, you shouldnt be with A either. A woman who is serious about you and wants to be with you would not tell that person to “wait” while they pursue someone else.
Neither of these woman are it, man. Maybe take some time for yourself solo. Figure out what it is you REALLY want in a partner and expect from them. Maybe go back to therapy to help yourself out.
All i can really say for sure is you deserve a lot better than these two.
This is domestic abuse. She physically abuses and threatens you and tries to intimidate you. I realise it’s much harder for men to accept they are victims of domestic abuse and to feel they will be believed. But it’s not about size or experience or training. But control. She turns to violence when she loses control or to try and retrieve control. If it was the other way round you’d very quickly accept it for this. And domestic violence escalates unchecked. I’m not saying abuses can’t change, but not if nothing changes. You need to leave, find a safe place to go. She then needs to seek help. Anger management. Therapy. I’m not actually sure what fixes it. But it won’t be you staying and screaming your side out the door, or trying to record it.
Now you focus on you, do things you enjoy on your own and with people who care about you without worrying about someone who put little effort into giving you what you needed. And whatever happens for him—it is what it is.
Pardon me for assuming, but are you, have you been petty? Do you disagree often?
You were upset about a tablet…. It's a small thing but is sounds like you made certain he'd notice you weren't using it. Like gone out of your way to emphasize.
I think he's just afraid of setting you off or offending you, so it's easier to deal with someone on which it doesn't matter.
I also have ADHD, but I can still manage to pull my weight and minimize the potential for becoming a burden to those around me. Don't use adhd as an excuse, you'll make the rest of us look bad XD
End your engagement with your fiance, you are not ready and the stuff about her that bothers you (lack of sex, goals, etc) will not be fixed no matter how long you stay with her or marry her. You guys just arent compatible if these problems keep resurfacing and makes you think twice.
In my honest opinion, you shouldnt be with A either. A woman who is serious about you and wants to be with you would not tell that person to “wait” while they pursue someone else.
Neither of these woman are it, man. Maybe take some time for yourself solo. Figure out what it is you REALLY want in a partner and expect from them. Maybe go back to therapy to help yourself out.
All i can really say for sure is you deserve a lot better than these two.
After 5 years of separation, why aren’t you divorced yet?
Starting to? If she were a man, everyone here would be demonizing Gina de saying he’s the literal devil. She IS a predator, full stop.
It’s nothing to do with that, I’m allowed to want to have a day to myself
Thank you. Not someone I want to be with. I just hope I didn't contract it…
This is domestic abuse. She physically abuses and threatens you and tries to intimidate you. I realise it’s much harder for men to accept they are victims of domestic abuse and to feel they will be believed. But it’s not about size or experience or training. But control. She turns to violence when she loses control or to try and retrieve control. If it was the other way round you’d very quickly accept it for this. And domestic violence escalates unchecked. I’m not saying abuses can’t change, but not if nothing changes. You need to leave, find a safe place to go. She then needs to seek help. Anger management. Therapy. I’m not actually sure what fixes it. But it won’t be you staying and screaming your side out the door, or trying to record it.
Now you focus on you, do things you enjoy on your own and with people who care about you without worrying about someone who put little effort into giving you what you needed. And whatever happens for him—it is what it is.
Pardon me for assuming, but are you, have you been petty? Do you disagree often?
You were upset about a tablet…. It's a small thing but is sounds like you made certain he'd notice you weren't using it. Like gone out of your way to emphasize.
I think he's just afraid of setting you off or offending you, so it's easier to deal with someone on which it doesn't matter.
Y'all need to talk more.
I also have ADHD, but I can still manage to pull my weight and minimize the potential for becoming a burden to those around me. Don't use adhd as an excuse, you'll make the rest of us look bad XD
You are for handling it over text.