You making the first move doesn’t make him not a pedo. Skipping past that though, it’s very unfortunate to have infidelity issues with your husband so early in the marriage. Not asking him to go through his phone beforehand is not the same as him sexting other women. What he did was phone sex (cheating). If you asked beforehand he most likely would’ve gotten rid of the evidence. I don’t have much advice because it’s clear there are red flags you are ignoring. You are still very young and all I can say is trust your gut!! Don’t throw away your life with someone who has already lived theirs.
Then maybe he’s simply not fixable, but at the very least the two of you are not compatible right now. End it. Move on. It’s hard to end a relationship with someone you care about so much, but right now he’s being borderline emotionally abusive, and he CERTAINLY doesn’t care about your needs at a time when you need him most. Good luck to you.
Dude get out. Can you even trust this is the only affair partner? If she wanted to get away with it again she could. She didn’t mind doing it the first time. If you take her back why wouldn’t she do it again?
Your gut decision was not to date this guy. You only caved on his insistence that he could work with your demanding schedule.
He lied. He cannot work with it.
There’s no harm and no foul. You have done nothing wrong. You need to exit this relationship because you’re not compatible at present to give your energy to a relationship that drains you of the only energy you have. Dedicate yourself to your residency, and spend whatever time you have off nurturing and taking care of yourself. You will feel a burden lift off your shoulders once you do not have someone else’s feelings to consider. God speed Hero in a scrub cap, remember self care and lots of sunshine when you have time off ❤️
Ok fun ! So , my son is terrified of spiders. We live in a country where spiders are never going to be a danger . We have educated him on this , and he rationally understands the factual information that said tiny spider is not of any risk to him . And yet ,he demonstrates emotional responses that make no rational sense. are his emotional responses rational and reasonable in a way that will make his life better ?
I understand that to say in an academic sense that emotions are irrational is to suggest that they have not hit their intended target therefore all emotions from academic perspective are therefore rational , but the reality of normal human behaviour ,in particular trauma response , makes this less academic approach less than useful in a day to day existence context . For OPs partner , the rational response would be to use his words to explain why this upset him. But his emotional response , formed from his lived experience was different
Just don't tell anybody.
Don't need to read all that. In the first couple sentences I could tell that you probably shouldn't get back with her.
A peck is just a quick seal of the lips, a normal kiss involves longer and the lips moving.
Plot twist.
If he’s asked to make it official, you’re his type. Ignore social media. It’s all fake anyway.
You making the first move doesn’t make him not a pedo. Skipping past that though, it’s very unfortunate to have infidelity issues with your husband so early in the marriage. Not asking him to go through his phone beforehand is not the same as him sexting other women. What he did was phone sex (cheating). If you asked beforehand he most likely would’ve gotten rid of the evidence. I don’t have much advice because it’s clear there are red flags you are ignoring. You are still very young and all I can say is trust your gut!! Don’t throw away your life with someone who has already lived theirs.
Holy shit! I totally missed that part. Can you imagine what her crap memoir would look like?
Then maybe he’s simply not fixable, but at the very least the two of you are not compatible right now. End it. Move on. It’s hard to end a relationship with someone you care about so much, but right now he’s being borderline emotionally abusive, and he CERTAINLY doesn’t care about your needs at a time when you need him most. Good luck to you.
Your ex and his friend are manipulative and toxic. Not to mention childish.
I couldn’t see myself staying involved with people like that after harassing one of my friends.
Dude get out. Can you even trust this is the only affair partner? If she wanted to get away with it again she could. She didn’t mind doing it the first time. If you take her back why wouldn’t she do it again?
Your gut decision was not to date this guy. You only caved on his insistence that he could work with your demanding schedule.
He lied. He cannot work with it.
There’s no harm and no foul. You have done nothing wrong. You need to exit this relationship because you’re not compatible at present to give your energy to a relationship that drains you of the only energy you have. Dedicate yourself to your residency, and spend whatever time you have off nurturing and taking care of yourself. You will feel a burden lift off your shoulders once you do not have someone else’s feelings to consider. God speed Hero in a scrub cap, remember self care and lots of sunshine when you have time off ❤️
Maybe write a letter and sit with it for a day or two. Read it and edit it as needed and the. Give it to one of them
Ok fun ! So , my son is terrified of spiders. We live in a country where spiders are never going to be a danger . We have educated him on this , and he rationally understands the factual information that said tiny spider is not of any risk to him . And yet ,he demonstrates emotional responses that make no rational sense. are his emotional responses rational and reasonable in a way that will make his life better ?
I understand that to say in an academic sense that emotions are irrational is to suggest that they have not hit their intended target therefore all emotions from academic perspective are therefore rational , but the reality of normal human behaviour ,in particular trauma response , makes this less academic approach less than useful in a day to day existence context . For OPs partner , the rational response would be to use his words to explain why this upset him. But his emotional response , formed from his lived experience was different