Finding other people's stuff in your laundry when you share machines is absolutely common. That wouldn't bother me at all. But what would bother me is your GF's reaction. Why would she make this a hill to die on, and give you an ultimatum over a common issue like finding someone's stuff in your laundry? You're going to have to get to the bottom of that mystery.
You already know what you need to do. Break up for good this time. Both of you will be better off in the long run. This guy isn't it for you.
he makes me feel loved and cared for. he makes me feel important and like I might just matter to someone, even if it is only temporary. and I just want to love him. I want to have someone to give my love to.
It feels good to be loved. You're addicted to it and afraid you won't find it somewhere else. But there are so many other people out there, honey. You want to love AND be loved, so find someone you can love back.
So what is your question, really? Because it sounds very clearly like you are done, and have been done for years. You don’t need the Internet to tell you what you already feel about your relationship.
My question for you is why haven’t you moved forward? Why are you hanging onto a relationship that does not make you happy? And why are you putting energy into complaining about your relationship to another woman instead of just breaking up? Something seems to be keeping you stuck in this increasingly unhappy limbo state.
What kind of fragile “family line” is “annihilated by a name change?! God I need to walk away from this thread and the idiocy of takes like this. The parent can and should name their kid whatever the fuck they want.
Whilst I agree with you about the advice, don't be a muppet and start attacking people's punctuation and paragraph stuff. Some of us didn't get a great education and may have a form of learning difficulty.
Lady. It does seem like you are genuinely confused so Imma do my best to explain.
Just because you say you aren't transphobic doesn't mean you haven't done things that are. Telling you son to stop taking his hormones is absolutely a huge cataclysmic error. That was transphobic. Blatantly, stupidly, openly, unquestionably, transphobic. The fact you even considered it, to say the least you even outright ASKED your son to stop taking them was such a monumental fuck up you might have possibly ended your relationship with him right there. The fact that you aren't fighting FOR your son AGAINST his grandparents and instead are trying to appeal to them is also transphobic The reason why there seems to be more trans people now isn't because there suddenly is more. It's because we live in a world with the internet and there are more people who are willing to take the risk to be open about this. Thinking there is some wider conspiracy behind this is also transphobic.
The fact you are arguing with people here instead of trying to actually listen speaks to the bigger problem. You. Aren't. Listening.
Who said it was?
Finding other people's stuff in your laundry when you share machines is absolutely common. That wouldn't bother me at all. But what would bother me is your GF's reaction. Why would she make this a hill to die on, and give you an ultimatum over a common issue like finding someone's stuff in your laundry? You're going to have to get to the bottom of that mystery.
You already know what you need to do. Break up for good this time. Both of you will be better off in the long run. This guy isn't it for you.
he makes me feel loved and cared for. he makes me feel important and like I might just matter to someone, even if it is only temporary. and I just want to love him. I want to have someone to give my love to.
It feels good to be loved. You're addicted to it and afraid you won't find it somewhere else. But there are so many other people out there, honey. You want to love AND be loved, so find someone you can love back.
So what is your question, really? Because it sounds very clearly like you are done, and have been done for years. You don’t need the Internet to tell you what you already feel about your relationship.
My question for you is why haven’t you moved forward? Why are you hanging onto a relationship that does not make you happy? And why are you putting energy into complaining about your relationship to another woman instead of just breaking up? Something seems to be keeping you stuck in this increasingly unhappy limbo state.
What kind of fragile “family line” is “annihilated by a name change?! God I need to walk away from this thread and the idiocy of takes like this. The parent can and should name their kid whatever the fuck they want.
Whilst I agree with you about the advice, don't be a muppet and start attacking people's punctuation and paragraph stuff. Some of us didn't get a great education and may have a form of learning difficulty.
Yah, this is your thing, get a hotel room or stay with friends. I wouldn’t be changing my plans, she’s ridiculous.
What you did wrong is pick this woman as your girlfriend!!! Nothing else was wrong… get yourself a change if woman
Lady. It does seem like you are genuinely confused so Imma do my best to explain.
Just because you say you aren't transphobic doesn't mean you haven't done things that are. Telling you son to stop taking his hormones is absolutely a huge cataclysmic error. That was transphobic. Blatantly, stupidly, openly, unquestionably, transphobic. The fact you even considered it, to say the least you even outright ASKED your son to stop taking them was such a monumental fuck up you might have possibly ended your relationship with him right there. The fact that you aren't fighting FOR your son AGAINST his grandparents and instead are trying to appeal to them is also transphobic The reason why there seems to be more trans people now isn't because there suddenly is more. It's because we live in a world with the internet and there are more people who are willing to take the risk to be open about this. Thinking there is some wider conspiracy behind this is also transphobic.
The fact you are arguing with people here instead of trying to actually listen speaks to the bigger problem. You. Aren't. Listening.