Right now, you two are duking it out at the surface level. Talking about an incident and discussion the reaction. The stuff at the top. You need to deal with the stuff on the bottom.
By the time you get to the depth, the conversation is over. Which is why you're not getting anywhere.
You need to start at the bottom and iron that stuff out. The stuff at the top is irrelevant.
Let this current situation pass, wait until you get back to 'normal', that is a good time to approach this conversation differently.
Show him this conversation is different by taking an unusual approach than your normal conversations… He will know it's time to stfu and listen to what you have to say.
Bring notes to the conversation. Demonstrate this is different for you. Imagine if he saw you reading off a prepared piece of paper. If he does not respond to that, then that is a time to reconsider.
Thank you for your comment I re-wrote it on my notebooks so I never forget . After your comment I felt powerful . I will take control of the situation! Thank you ?
I wouldn’t say she was toxic, no. Was she a bit full of herself? Maybe slightly, but she knows she’s good looking. She always took a lot of pictures of herself
I did respond with something like “you look great, I hope you have a great birthday” and she didn’t reply, however she was at a bar, and I suspect was either already, or in the process of getting drunk. Not sure how to play this if I’m being honest… I don’t want to come on too strong, but also don’t want to go right back into no contact after peeking my head out after a few months.
Knowing her, I’d like to think the text was positive. But I did ask if she wanted to catch up in the first text I sent, and she didn’t acknowledge it in her response so who knows. She might just be playing it slow herself.
Her reaction shows something shady is going on. If you got the address maybe check it out.
Just use other prevention methods.
Okay, that is more depth. That is what you need.
Right now, you two are duking it out at the surface level. Talking about an incident and discussion the reaction. The stuff at the top. You need to deal with the stuff on the bottom.
By the time you get to the depth, the conversation is over. Which is why you're not getting anywhere.
You need to start at the bottom and iron that stuff out. The stuff at the top is irrelevant.
Let this current situation pass, wait until you get back to 'normal', that is a good time to approach this conversation differently.
Show him this conversation is different by taking an unusual approach than your normal conversations… He will know it's time to stfu and listen to what you have to say.
Bring notes to the conversation. Demonstrate this is different for you. Imagine if he saw you reading off a prepared piece of paper. If he does not respond to that, then that is a time to reconsider.
Thank you for your comment I re-wrote it on my notebooks so I never forget . After your comment I felt powerful . I will take control of the situation! Thank you ?
Get out of Dodge
I wouldn’t say she was toxic, no. Was she a bit full of herself? Maybe slightly, but she knows she’s good looking. She always took a lot of pictures of herself
I did respond with something like “you look great, I hope you have a great birthday” and she didn’t reply, however she was at a bar, and I suspect was either already, or in the process of getting drunk. Not sure how to play this if I’m being honest… I don’t want to come on too strong, but also don’t want to go right back into no contact after peeking my head out after a few months.
Knowing her, I’d like to think the text was positive. But I did ask if she wanted to catch up in the first text I sent, and she didn’t acknowledge it in her response so who knows. She might just be playing it slow herself.