Well, given that bigger picture, it seems like he's taking his hurt and anger out on you, which is never cool. Why are you scared of him? That shouldn't be how you feel in a loving relationship.
It sounds like the two of you don't communicate super well, generally – which is not a judgment, I think it's very common – but at the same time, if he's living his day to day life scarred by that kind of trauma and not dealing with it in any way, he may definitely be the “bigger problem” here.
Is he unkind to you when angry? Aggressive? Say crappy things?
Break things off with your fiancee and choose your passionate love affair and all of the consequences that come from it. She deserves to be with someone who wants her 100% not just out of fear of “losing everything”.
I can't help but wonder if there's some underlying reason for all these outdated, traditional demands coming from your mom. Does she wish your dad had done this? Does she want to be included? It might be worth sitting down with her and having a serious heart to heart.
Don't you dare abandon your dreams, honey!
Go chase those dreams with someone who deserves you, loves you, and appreciates you while sharing the same dreams.
You've spent 11 years with this man. Don't waste another second on him when clearly he doesn't want the same things as you. It's not too late.
Why do you want to celebrate ANY anniversaries with a cheater?
Sounds like there is no fixing this. To prevent it from ruining your next relationship I suggest therapy or like some soul searching.
You’re welcome and good luck!
You shouldn’t have told the friend.
You need to cease all communication with them.
And they kissed. My gf told me about it the next day and was very worried about my reaction.
Because it's a girl, I didn't really mind. That's happened a couple of times
What are you, some kind of stupid?
My girlfriend cheats on me but it's with girls so its okay. Oh no, my girlfriend took that as an okay to go further, HoW cOuLd ThIs hApPeN?!
I’m positive . Even if she is not I’m not interested because this was childish
So you’d rather have an unethically cut and mined gem than something that’s likely ethically made in a lab…?
Well, given that bigger picture, it seems like he's taking his hurt and anger out on you, which is never cool. Why are you scared of him? That shouldn't be how you feel in a loving relationship.
It sounds like the two of you don't communicate super well, generally – which is not a judgment, I think it's very common – but at the same time, if he's living his day to day life scarred by that kind of trauma and not dealing with it in any way, he may definitely be the “bigger problem” here.
Is he unkind to you when angry? Aggressive? Say crappy things?
The deletion of texts is all you need to know. He wouldn’t be deleting anything if there’s nothing to hide. Good luck.
Cool story. Still cheating.
Break things off with your fiancee and choose your passionate love affair and all of the consequences that come from it. She deserves to be with someone who wants her 100% not just out of fear of “losing everything”.
I can't help but wonder if there's some underlying reason for all these outdated, traditional demands coming from your mom. Does she wish your dad had done this? Does she want to be included? It might be worth sitting down with her and having a serious heart to heart.