When I was dating and a guy ghosted me, when they tried to get back, I was like “sorry who is this I don’t have this number saved” it was hilarious to read the broken ego replies
It sounds like she just wanted to communicate her view. She said she doesn’t care what you do and that she doesn’t care. She’s allowed to have preferences. I highly doubt this will turn into anything more unless you have larger issues with your clothing, like refusing to dress appropriately for different situations, but it doesn’t sound like that’s the situation at all.
Contact a lawyer ASAP and also contact a therapist. Stay with your mum from now on to get out of the spell you’re in now. You’ll start to see true colours. This is not the man and NOT the family you want to marry into.
I responded: “I’m sorry if you’re going through things, please make me aware if you’re going through stuff, you don’t have to give me details but understand that it is hot for me to understand your behavior without context especially when I have a specific emotional need. I told you a bit earlier how we could have avoided this and even explained to you how I wish to be welcomed in these type of situations so that it gives you tricks. I doesn’t really motivate me to open up again in the future. I’m shocked with the outcome of this conversation.”
He continued being agressive and spiteful and told me again and again that he doesn’t need this in his live! that he feels disrespected.
Me: me too I feel disrespected, so how are we handling this now ?
Him: i would tend to say that we’re done but I’m tired and i don’t know what to say.
Me: wow, you’re ready to be done for just that ?
Him: well last time you broke it off and I need to protect myself now
(I broke up with him two months ago as he was going through weed severance. He was smoking during the day and would wake up at night to smoke weed. He was agressive, short tempered and his weed consumption made him incredibly unstable mentally)
Me: wow ok so how are we even going to build a relationship if you are already defensive and want to break up?
Him: I don’t want to break up but I need to defend myself, I have abandonment issues and this is triggering them
Me: I’m sorry then, let’s take a few days to cool off and distance from one another.
Him: wow, ok now this is how you want to manage it… ok tell me what should I have said to appease you?
Me: are you really interested or are you just asking for the stake of asking …
Him: whatever just say it already
Me: ok based on the tips I gave you earlier can we please start over. I would really like to hear you express in a way that is appeasing to me. This would make me feel safer and it would close the conversation on a positive note. “Babe I think there was a misunderstanding. I really want to see you and I love you, but I’m having a naked day and would prefer to plan tomorrow”
Him: I won’t start this over, I’m tired and you can’t make me behave in a certain way, it’s insulting!!!!
Me, breathing heavily: im just giving you the answer as you asked.
Him: yeah but I told you that already
Me: partially and right after you go to the complete opposite direction saying that you’re fed up and are threatening me that this can’t happen every week even though it happens extremely rarely and you finish with an intention of breaking up.
Him finally saying things in the way I wanted since the beginning
Me: ok, thank you, I appreciate the way you expressed yourself now..
Him: BYE
10 mins after I receive a text message from him apologizing and wishing me a great night and a good beginning of week.
I’m 28 he is 34. We are both adults and have stressful careers …. But I feel so sad when he behaves like that. We made so much progress and 80% of our times togheter are pure bliss.
We really don't hear what the father thinks about any of it. Just that he had the kids' names on the accounts so they would inherit. Dad might still feel that way. My only other surviving sibling cut off my parents dramatically at the deathbed of the other one and mom still has him getting quite a bit.
Don’t watch podcasts bro. Even if he makes her block her but otherwise acts the same, she’ll still be thinking about him and will actually just amplify her attraction for the other guy. It’s called forbidden fruit
People say politics shouldn't effect relationships but they do, and here's why. People's political views are indicative of their moral foundation. Being on opposite ends of the political spectrum probably means you also have opposite moral standards. This can be particularly problematic with very conservative men because their opinions in women's rights are often pretty appalling. Only you can decide if this is a deal breaker or not. Just be aware that if you decide to continue the relationship this is a topic that is likely to come up again and may be a source of friction between you
I have a feeling you won’t regret breaking up.
When I was dating and a guy ghosted me, when they tried to get back, I was like “sorry who is this I don’t have this number saved” it was hilarious to read the broken ego replies
It sounds like she just wanted to communicate her view. She said she doesn’t care what you do and that she doesn’t care. She’s allowed to have preferences. I highly doubt this will turn into anything more unless you have larger issues with your clothing, like refusing to dress appropriately for different situations, but it doesn’t sound like that’s the situation at all.
Contact a lawyer ASAP and also contact a therapist. Stay with your mum from now on to get out of the spell you’re in now. You’ll start to see true colours. This is not the man and NOT the family you want to marry into.
Why is it that people feel they have retrospective rights to a relationship?
Surely this is the guys issue?
That’s about as true as “there’s no cops on this road” and “you can’t get pregnant your first time”
I responded: “I’m sorry if you’re going through things, please make me aware if you’re going through stuff, you don’t have to give me details but understand that it is hot for me to understand your behavior without context especially when I have a specific emotional need. I told you a bit earlier how we could have avoided this and even explained to you how I wish to be welcomed in these type of situations so that it gives you tricks. I doesn’t really motivate me to open up again in the future. I’m shocked with the outcome of this conversation.”
He continued being agressive and spiteful and told me again and again that he doesn’t need this in his live! that he feels disrespected.
Me: me too I feel disrespected, so how are we handling this now ?
Him: i would tend to say that we’re done but I’m tired and i don’t know what to say.
Me: wow, you’re ready to be done for just that ?
Him: well last time you broke it off and I need to protect myself now
(I broke up with him two months ago as he was going through weed severance. He was smoking during the day and would wake up at night to smoke weed. He was agressive, short tempered and his weed consumption made him incredibly unstable mentally)
Me: wow ok so how are we even going to build a relationship if you are already defensive and want to break up?
Him: I don’t want to break up but I need to defend myself, I have abandonment issues and this is triggering them
Me: I’m sorry then, let’s take a few days to cool off and distance from one another.
Him: wow, ok now this is how you want to manage it… ok tell me what should I have said to appease you?
Me: are you really interested or are you just asking for the stake of asking …
Him: whatever just say it already
Me: ok based on the tips I gave you earlier can we please start over. I would really like to hear you express in a way that is appeasing to me. This would make me feel safer and it would close the conversation on a positive note. “Babe I think there was a misunderstanding. I really want to see you and I love you, but I’m having a naked day and would prefer to plan tomorrow”
Him: I won’t start this over, I’m tired and you can’t make me behave in a certain way, it’s insulting!!!!
Me, breathing heavily: im just giving you the answer as you asked.
Him: yeah but I told you that already
Me: partially and right after you go to the complete opposite direction saying that you’re fed up and are threatening me that this can’t happen every week even though it happens extremely rarely and you finish with an intention of breaking up.
Him finally saying things in the way I wanted since the beginning
Me: ok, thank you, I appreciate the way you expressed yourself now..
Him: BYE
10 mins after I receive a text message from him apologizing and wishing me a great night and a good beginning of week.
I’m 28 he is 34. We are both adults and have stressful careers …. But I feel so sad when he behaves like that. We made so much progress and 80% of our times togheter are pure bliss.
I am SOOOO CONFUSED! Please help!!!!!
Two brain tumors? Focus on your health. That’s a serious diagnosis. I hope your treatment has started and is going well.
We really don't hear what the father thinks about any of it. Just that he had the kids' names on the accounts so they would inherit. Dad might still feel that way. My only other surviving sibling cut off my parents dramatically at the deathbed of the other one and mom still has him getting quite a bit.
There's some things that get bent, that you can't unbend. Don't feel guilty for taking care of yourself by whatever means may be nessecary.
You can’t love your wife more than the world – you’ve shown that by taking your AP out for dinner but not your wife in 10 years.
Don’t watch podcasts bro. Even if he makes her block her but otherwise acts the same, she’ll still be thinking about him and will actually just amplify her attraction for the other guy. It’s called forbidden fruit
People say politics shouldn't effect relationships but they do, and here's why. People's political views are indicative of their moral foundation. Being on opposite ends of the political spectrum probably means you also have opposite moral standards. This can be particularly problematic with very conservative men because their opinions in women's rights are often pretty appalling. Only you can decide if this is a deal breaker or not. Just be aware that if you decide to continue the relationship this is a topic that is likely to come up again and may be a source of friction between you
If it were a close friend or family member, sure.
But not the husband of the woman I was just knowingly involved with, it’s morally contradicting.