I see. If it's not a big deal to him, then it shouldn't be a problem for him to make it public, because it IS a big deal to his gf. See if she can frame it that way. If he still gets upset, he sucks. I mean, he already sucks. If it's not a big deal he shouldn't be getting angry about this.
agreed. i was thinking the man is going to be in for a rude shock if they ever divorce and he starts dating. other women would not be as tolerant as wife. other women would instantly dump him during the dating process.
“Dad, I was 15 when I did something stupid and ruined your wedding. I regret that and have apologized. She's 45. An adult who should, and does, know better. I don't want someone so vindictive as to hold a decades old grudge against me and retaliate in my life. It's childish, toxic, and drama I don't need.
What other grudges is she secretly holding that will need to be reciprocated?
I will respect your decision. You don't want us in your life, then that's your call. Should my husband and I choose to have children, you will not be a part of their lives. I will live! my life without you in it. Know that I will be happy, even if I miss you from time to time.
Sis, the problem with your first relationship is that everything feels so incredibly strongly. The fact is, NONE of the things he is doing to you are loving. Not a single one of them.
1 – pressuring you to send nudes. That is not loving – it is manipulative. Personally, I think it is always a bad idea to send nudes or to allow yourself to be filmed hard.
2 – insisting you call him daddy – you know what? I have NEVER called my husband Daddy. I find it incredibly offputting and a massive turn off. If you don't want to call him Daddy, don't. You don't have to. Come up with another name you want to call him but that one to me is massively demeaning to you.
Sis, you deserve someone who respects YOU. Love is respect and respecting someone is showing them love. He does not respect you and the fact that he is trying to push past you very reasonable boundaries means he genuinely does not love you.
You deserve better.
You know what happens if you two break up? You will be sad for a while and then in a few months you will start dating other people. YOU can decide before you start dating others where your standards and boundaries lay and you can choose what you will allow and what you won't, what you will do and what you won't.
But you need to have the self respect to end this relationship because it is demeaning to you.
You ruined the evening. You're doing the exact opposite of 'your part'.
You're a great father. Never doubt that. She is your little girl, no matter her age. Right now, you're her protector and safe place.
I see. If it's not a big deal to him, then it shouldn't be a problem for him to make it public, because it IS a big deal to his gf. See if she can frame it that way. If he still gets upset, he sucks. I mean, he already sucks. If it's not a big deal he shouldn't be getting angry about this.
agreed. i was thinking the man is going to be in for a rude shock if they ever divorce and he starts dating. other women would not be as tolerant as wife. other women would instantly dump him during the dating process.
Eventually she’ll cheat on him and he’ll come running back.
“Dad, I was 15 when I did something stupid and ruined your wedding. I regret that and have apologized. She's 45. An adult who should, and does, know better. I don't want someone so vindictive as to hold a decades old grudge against me and retaliate in my life. It's childish, toxic, and drama I don't need.
What other grudges is she secretly holding that will need to be reciprocated?
I will respect your decision. You don't want us in your life, then that's your call. Should my husband and I choose to have children, you will not be a part of their lives. I will live! my life without you in it. Know that I will be happy, even if I miss you from time to time.
Goodbye.”
This.
Sis, the problem with your first relationship is that everything feels so incredibly strongly. The fact is, NONE of the things he is doing to you are loving. Not a single one of them.
1 – pressuring you to send nudes. That is not loving – it is manipulative. Personally, I think it is always a bad idea to send nudes or to allow yourself to be filmed hard.
2 – insisting you call him daddy – you know what? I have NEVER called my husband Daddy. I find it incredibly offputting and a massive turn off. If you don't want to call him Daddy, don't. You don't have to. Come up with another name you want to call him but that one to me is massively demeaning to you.
Sis, you deserve someone who respects YOU. Love is respect and respecting someone is showing them love. He does not respect you and the fact that he is trying to push past you very reasonable boundaries means he genuinely does not love you.
You deserve better.
You know what happens if you two break up? You will be sad for a while and then in a few months you will start dating other people. YOU can decide before you start dating others where your standards and boundaries lay and you can choose what you will allow and what you won't, what you will do and what you won't.
But you need to have the self respect to end this relationship because it is demeaning to you.