They may not have had the best relationship, it might have been a bad one; but that doesn't mean his death is not a painful thing for her. Just in general (regardless of the relationship), dying at the young age of 35 is a tragedy. He meant something to her, and now the man is dead.
No, it is not rude or disrespectful to her current partner. It has nothing to do with him. Also No, she is not trying to 'get attention.'
You are very young OP, and I don't think you understand too much about life yet.
He never said she was “a lot younger” than him, you are speculating. He’s said they’re ‘around the same age, maybe she’s a little younger’ but again age doesn’t matter, you can have friends younger or older than yourself.
He’s asking if it’s weird that he asked for their number. “Weird” is up to personal interpretation so if it’s weird for you it’s weird for you. I do not think it’s weird. You’re entitled to your opinion and I don’t think you worse for it, we just disagree.
“I'm sorry for laughing at you at dinner. You are one of my closest friends and I would never want to hurt you or cause you any mental harm. For that I truly am sorry. Sadly, I don't find the comparison between being gay and being a furry funny at all. If you truly feel that being a furry is comparable to being gay then I'm sad to say that perhaps t's best our friendship ends here. I would never equate being gay(something that has had people killed for and is still illegal in several countries) to a a hobby like being a furry. I feel it undermines and invalidates a lot of the struggles that my gay friends are going through. Wish you the best though.” idk or something like that bc wtf man
I’m not going to lie, these are all really concerning red flags and you don’t seem to be in a healthy enough place to be in a relationship. You should seek therapy. It’s not okay to be consumed with these controlling thoughts.
You are already significantly older than her and you’re obsessed with how much more beautiful you think she was before she met you. You’re basically just fantasizing about a teenager. Real human women gain weight as they age and their metabolisms change. Real human women don’t wear a full face of makeup every day and they have wrinkles and scars and spots. Real human women have autonomy and independence and they make their own decisions. You’re not actually interested in having a real adult woman partner: you’re obsessed with the fantasy of a nubile teenager who will never age and who you can control.
By keeping these thoughts from her you’ve been lying to her about what kind of person you are. She deserves to know that she’s been with someone who wishes she wasn’t a whole person.
I can see that, but does he have no family or other friends to rely on? At some point he totally abandoned any semblance of vows but she’s still showing up for the relationship, for me I think the line would have been at the drunk driving but I appreciate her dedication to her ideals if nothing else
Op you know you’re not crazy. Why are you letting this man gaslight you into thinking you’re wrong? No respectful man would call another woman beautiful if he has a gf.
Sorry man. She's for the streets
Tell him to get bent. What’s he doing to improve his looks for you. Maybe he’s shabby, and projecting that on you.
They may not have had the best relationship, it might have been a bad one; but that doesn't mean his death is not a painful thing for her. Just in general (regardless of the relationship), dying at the young age of 35 is a tragedy. He meant something to her, and now the man is dead.
No, it is not rude or disrespectful to her current partner. It has nothing to do with him. Also No, she is not trying to 'get attention.'
You are very young OP, and I don't think you understand too much about life yet.
Lol she pays rent somewhere and I assure you that owner is probably benefiting off her too. Even more so most likely
He never said she was “a lot younger” than him, you are speculating. He’s said they’re ‘around the same age, maybe she’s a little younger’ but again age doesn’t matter, you can have friends younger or older than yourself.
He’s asking if it’s weird that he asked for their number. “Weird” is up to personal interpretation so if it’s weird for you it’s weird for you. I do not think it’s weird. You’re entitled to your opinion and I don’t think you worse for it, we just disagree.
Exactly. You either trust your partner or you don't. If you're monitoring their SM or 'checking' it you clearly don't trust them.
“I'm sorry for laughing at you at dinner. You are one of my closest friends and I would never want to hurt you or cause you any mental harm. For that I truly am sorry. Sadly, I don't find the comparison between being gay and being a furry funny at all. If you truly feel that being a furry is comparable to being gay then I'm sad to say that perhaps t's best our friendship ends here. I would never equate being gay(something that has had people killed for and is still illegal in several countries) to a a hobby like being a furry. I feel it undermines and invalidates a lot of the struggles that my gay friends are going through. Wish you the best though.” idk or something like that bc wtf man
I’m not going to lie, these are all really concerning red flags and you don’t seem to be in a healthy enough place to be in a relationship. You should seek therapy. It’s not okay to be consumed with these controlling thoughts.
You are already significantly older than her and you’re obsessed with how much more beautiful you think she was before she met you. You’re basically just fantasizing about a teenager. Real human women gain weight as they age and their metabolisms change. Real human women don’t wear a full face of makeup every day and they have wrinkles and scars and spots. Real human women have autonomy and independence and they make their own decisions. You’re not actually interested in having a real adult woman partner: you’re obsessed with the fantasy of a nubile teenager who will never age and who you can control.
By keeping these thoughts from her you’ve been lying to her about what kind of person you are. She deserves to know that she’s been with someone who wishes she wasn’t a whole person.
I can see that, but does he have no family or other friends to rely on? At some point he totally abandoned any semblance of vows but she’s still showing up for the relationship, for me I think the line would have been at the drunk driving but I appreciate her dedication to her ideals if nothing else
Op you know you’re not crazy. Why are you letting this man gaslight you into thinking you’re wrong? No respectful man would call another woman beautiful if he has a gf.
Lol I've never heard that one before.