this is the advice I was giving my father until i realised his enabling (which after many years is as much the problem as my mother's underdeveloped+dysfunctional way of dealing with emotions) was a one way street with no turning back.
some people are trapped in their own ways and are just looking for a tool to allow them to continue. OP might be exactly this tool. sadly that is what my dad became.
OP, i wholeheartedly mean this: be the creator of your own good fortune, dont get sucked into being someone else's tool for misery.
i’m not necessarily pissed off. i’m more-so sad because he couldn’t read the room. but i’m waiting my feelings out right now and when i’m cleared up i’m gonna talk to him about fixing our agreement with the whole sleep during sex thing. he’s pretty upset which shows he had no malicious intent, he was just a little selfish in the moment.
I also doubt that she will obey his boundaries especially if it has been going on for this long. If she doesn’t have friends because she thinks the world is boring then that’s a problem she has to work through, but first she has to acknowledge that and accept it, boy that will be tough. Until then he’s pretty much stuck with her.
I disagree. Sometimes a woman is so gobsmacked that she freezes because she's having trouble processing what is happening. sometimes she's afraid to make a scene for other reasons (like her friend taking it badly). And sometimes the contact is just so light you may not feel it (particularly if wearing loose clothes) or it may seem inadvertent (hand on chair accidentally brushes against her).
You said you wanted to break up so he listened.
Probably time to focus on bettering your mental health.
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Agreed, their expectations of each other are not aligned.
this is the advice I was giving my father until i realised his enabling (which after many years is as much the problem as my mother's underdeveloped+dysfunctional way of dealing with emotions) was a one way street with no turning back.
some people are trapped in their own ways and are just looking for a tool to allow them to continue. OP might be exactly this tool. sadly that is what my dad became.
OP, i wholeheartedly mean this: be the creator of your own good fortune, dont get sucked into being someone else's tool for misery.
yeah, it was definitely not rape.
i’m not necessarily pissed off. i’m more-so sad because he couldn’t read the room. but i’m waiting my feelings out right now and when i’m cleared up i’m gonna talk to him about fixing our agreement with the whole sleep during sex thing. he’s pretty upset which shows he had no malicious intent, he was just a little selfish in the moment.
I also doubt that she will obey his boundaries especially if it has been going on for this long. If she doesn’t have friends because she thinks the world is boring then that’s a problem she has to work through, but first she has to acknowledge that and accept it, boy that will be tough. Until then he’s pretty much stuck with her.
I disagree. Sometimes a woman is so gobsmacked that she freezes because she's having trouble processing what is happening. sometimes she's afraid to make a scene for other reasons (like her friend taking it badly). And sometimes the contact is just so light you may not feel it (particularly if wearing loose clothes) or it may seem inadvertent (hand on chair accidentally brushes against her).
Please let this be a troll. If it isn't, then that was beyond the scale of being abusive, I don't even have words for it. Get away from that psycho!
I must be too young. I have never seen or heard about any of those. I'm assuming they are tv shows.
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