It's not an excuse if he 100% is done with her and letting her know that her actions have consequences, which in this case would be divorce.
“Even if we are getting a one sided story” are your words. You keep assuming he doesn't mean it, but you have no idea. Your whole response is “assuming he didn't mean it”. Not my problem that you don't understand your own point.
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OK here’s the deal. You asked her to do something that is setting a boundary and she lied to you and didn’t do it. So now your choices are you either give her a more stern boundary and see if she doesn’t delete it while sitting in front of you that you broke up or to you, just go ahead and break up because she’s not worth it if she’s already shown you that she’s not trustworthy. you don’t want to waste emotional time and space on somebody that’s not trust worthy
I'm the same! When I was a teen and in my twenties I thought older people were just bitter when they would try to talk sense into me. I definitely went through a period where I dated 100% just for that “love” feeling. Someone I had good chemistry with… Two years working my butt off while my SO sat at home playing WoW really changed my world view. I think there's a good reason someone is called your partner. You have to work together to achieve your life goals.
Ok, that's bullshit. If you're going to keep being married, and you're going to keep providing the sole income , you deserve a new agreement about the division of labor….and I am so glad you are considering therapy. The input & guidance of a disinterested third party can be invaluable and having a “referee” helps ensure that you are attacking the problems rather than attacking each other.
I meant going to a club sorry in Spanish clubs are called dances. But you’re right he is happy hanging out with me. And true even though I know her I don’t need to hang out with it’s his friend.
That's something I've thought about too. My parents did the same thing (dad moved into a hotel for a week and then came back), and the marriage lasted another month after that. It really feels like its over, and shes just clinging onto the hope that we can crawl back from this.
Your bf is much older, doesn't pay rent yet he cannot save any money and is always broke. He doesnt have any intention to marry you either. Too many red flags, this relationship isn't gonna work out unless you want to be his maid.
Do you plan on staying with this man until youre 30 & have a few children so you can be a struggling single mom and ruin your life? Because thats whats gonna happen lol. I swear some women make the worst decisions in life. Why are you dating a loser. He's almost 30 and not ready for marriage at all, I hope you're not expecting any commitment from him.
I don't know if he's your first, but trust me you have so many (better) options at this age. You are young, and you seem quite mature too. You make your own money, you can move out, find a place (or a roomate, or move back in with your parents) and date other people. It will be fun, a new experience and you will learn to be independent.
What would your health insurance situation be if you go without a job? I’d be terrified of not having the NHS and even the nightmare that is the DWP , as a safety net.
A lot of people want other attention than their partners, so if by “normal” you mean” common,” I'd say yup. But, you know, talk to your bf about the fact that you don't have relational object permanance & need your fix when he isn't there to give it to you?
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Who says he doesn't mean it?
It's not an excuse if he 100% is done with her and letting her know that her actions have consequences, which in this case would be divorce.
“Even if we are getting a one sided story” are your words. You keep assuming he doesn't mean it, but you have no idea. Your whole response is “assuming he didn't mean it”. Not my problem that you don't understand your own point.
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Schooling away, all the related goodies, experience, internship….
And then you go somewhere else and wonder why none of that matters?
You….YOU walked away from much easier employment and a potential relationship to go…..where?
Can i guess from a larger urban area to a much much smaller one?
OK here’s the deal. You asked her to do something that is setting a boundary and she lied to you and didn’t do it. So now your choices are you either give her a more stern boundary and see if she doesn’t delete it while sitting in front of you that you broke up or to you, just go ahead and break up because she’s not worth it if she’s already shown you that she’s not trustworthy. you don’t want to waste emotional time and space on somebody that’s not trust worthy
I'm the same! When I was a teen and in my twenties I thought older people were just bitter when they would try to talk sense into me. I definitely went through a period where I dated 100% just for that “love” feeling. Someone I had good chemistry with… Two years working my butt off while my SO sat at home playing WoW really changed my world view. I think there's a good reason someone is called your partner. You have to work together to achieve your life goals.
A one sided opinion like your own? ???? Kiddo, you're in the wrong here.
Ok, that's bullshit. If you're going to keep being married, and you're going to keep providing the sole income , you deserve a new agreement about the division of labor….and I am so glad you are considering therapy. The input & guidance of a disinterested third party can be invaluable and having a “referee” helps ensure that you are attacking the problems rather than attacking each other.
I meant going to a club sorry in Spanish clubs are called dances. But you’re right he is happy hanging out with me. And true even though I know her I don’t need to hang out with it’s his friend.
That's something I've thought about too. My parents did the same thing (dad moved into a hotel for a week and then came back), and the marriage lasted another month after that. It really feels like its over, and shes just clinging onto the hope that we can crawl back from this.
Your bf is much older, doesn't pay rent yet he cannot save any money and is always broke. He doesnt have any intention to marry you either. Too many red flags, this relationship isn't gonna work out unless you want to be his maid.
Do you plan on staying with this man until youre 30 & have a few children so you can be a struggling single mom and ruin your life? Because thats whats gonna happen lol. I swear some women make the worst decisions in life. Why are you dating a loser. He's almost 30 and not ready for marriage at all, I hope you're not expecting any commitment from him.
I don't know if he's your first, but trust me you have so many (better) options at this age. You are young, and you seem quite mature too. You make your own money, you can move out, find a place (or a roomate, or move back in with your parents) and date other people. It will be fun, a new experience and you will learn to be independent.
What would your health insurance situation be if you go without a job? I’d be terrified of not having the NHS and even the nightmare that is the DWP , as a safety net.
A lot of people want other attention than their partners, so if by “normal” you mean” common,” I'd say yup. But, you know, talk to your bf about the fact that you don't have relational object permanance & need your fix when he isn't there to give it to you?