This mindset can be so damaging to you, and even your partner. A relationship should be about two people wanting the best for each other, but not at the expense of themselves.
I think your relationship has bigger issues than this particular one. It sounds like you aren’t handling your stress the best, but instead of being supportive or trying to help your partner is more concerned about his sexual needs.
You also say that you’ve tried this before and didn’t like it and that you both have trust issues. None of these things sound like a good basis for an open relationship.
Have you tried therapy to help you handle anxiety or stress? Have you talked about scheduling sex so you have time to get in the mindset for it and he can get that connection he desires? You mention you haven’t been meeting his needs lately, but has he been trying to be supportive and has he been meeting your needs? Have you all had a conversation about that?
Unfortunately if you all can’t communicate through this issue or get to a place where you’re both comfortable, you may be incompatible.
Whatever you say they are going to find a way to be upset. Let them get over it or not.
This mindset can be so damaging to you, and even your partner. A relationship should be about two people wanting the best for each other, but not at the expense of themselves.
I think your relationship has bigger issues than this particular one. It sounds like you aren’t handling your stress the best, but instead of being supportive or trying to help your partner is more concerned about his sexual needs.
You also say that you’ve tried this before and didn’t like it and that you both have trust issues. None of these things sound like a good basis for an open relationship.
Have you tried therapy to help you handle anxiety or stress? Have you talked about scheduling sex so you have time to get in the mindset for it and he can get that connection he desires? You mention you haven’t been meeting his needs lately, but has he been trying to be supportive and has he been meeting your needs? Have you all had a conversation about that?
Unfortunately if you all can’t communicate through this issue or get to a place where you’re both comfortable, you may be incompatible.