You're not being “reasonable”: you're ignoring her very clearly stated plans – she's not leaving Ohio – and trying to pressure her to change them because it's what you want.
Break up. In the future, stop trying to change people to fit your desires. Accept them as they are or avoid them.
Well, you need to talk to about what you saw even if you dislike it. Or it will poison your relationship and make you distrust your gf. And without trust, there will be no relationship.
Keep a lookout for lying and other red flags after that.
I’m more mad he’s lying to me about it. I told his sister because I have a good relationship with her but don’t have one with the rest of his family. I can definitely see how he could need some support from his family, but tell me the truth. “ I was stressing about your surgery and needed someone to talk to so I told my mom to help me through it.” I would have been fine with that.
You're not being “reasonable”: you're ignoring her very clearly stated plans – she's not leaving Ohio – and trying to pressure her to change them because it's what you want.
Break up. In the future, stop trying to change people to fit your desires. Accept them as they are or avoid them.
Well, you need to talk to about what you saw even if you dislike it. Or it will poison your relationship and make you distrust your gf. And without trust, there will be no relationship.
Keep a lookout for lying and other red flags after that.
You always ask the girl you are with if she wants to come and eat.
Reread the parts from mom in OP’s text and I think you’ll find your answer… if this is a truthful recount of the story of course.
I’m more mad he’s lying to me about it. I told his sister because I have a good relationship with her but don’t have one with the rest of his family. I can definitely see how he could need some support from his family, but tell me the truth. “ I was stressing about your surgery and needed someone to talk to so I told my mom to help me through it.” I would have been fine with that.
This is unthinkable to me. It is abuse, and my concern for you is that it will only escalate from here.
The behavior is unacceptable. You can't accept it. Get out now or get out later with more time and energy lost.
I'm sorry this happened to you OP. No argument could have justified this happening to you.
If you are not actively having a sexual relationship with either of these women right now, you’re over complicating things.