Same. I'm not friends with them all but I know they exist and remember most of their names. Wanting to hide the existence of a “friends” under the guise of “trust” is worthy of some serious side eye. Sounds like two people who don't talk to each other to me, hardly a marriage.
I'm curious to know how much younger she is than you or your husband? Is she like… a secret child? Maybe that's why he's so considerate in their texts and conversations? That was the first thought that popped into my head.
Definitely weird plus the kiss comment just makes it feel like she’s trying to stir shit up. I don’t see that your husband necessarily has blame- he didn’t intend to feed her, and in awkward situations it’s not uncommon to just go with it, doesn’t mean he particularly enjoyed sharing a fork with her. I would definitely keep a closer eye though, and try to avoid her
That’s because you’re not a professional therapist which is what she needs. She has some deep seated issues and trauma you don’t know about, hence why you can’t help her.
She is 35, she is considered a geriatric mother now, increasing the chances of diseases and problems during pregnancy and postpartum. Also, her children are teens and is hard to go back to changing diapers
You don’t need proof to hold him accountable. If you’re not comfortable being in this relationship with your asshole boyfriend anymore, you can just end it any time you want. YOU DO NOT NEED PROOF.
We have the same religion so that’s not what the problem is. I’m annoyed with him because I said he keeps saying he’ll try to be more romantic but he isn’t changing at all. And it’s fine that some people aren’t but I want a guy who is so I’d rather not keep getting my hopes up.
The fact that they still stayed out until like 5 a.m. while you were there is hilarious. Like, if you were ruining the dynamic they could have cut it slightly short? You'd think adults in at least their mid-20s with jobs would be ok just staying out until 2 or 3 a.m. for once.
5 years is not that much tbh, and i dont think it cannot be worked around. The problem here is their different views on things. He doesn't seem to enjoy this stuff, she does. Thus he doesn't want her to go out, she loves it. They could both be 26 with different views on it (for the record I'm 25 and don't understand people who stay out clubbing often).
I don't get it… how a piece of shit like your bf have all that power over you so far away of your country?
You need to block him, and you need to seriously go to therapy to learn how to love yourself a little more. Any person who respects and loves herself would kick him out of her life and block him forever from the first shout he gave you because you didn't record yourself having sex whit another person. No… would kick him out at the first indication of forcing you to do something sexual or anything that you don't want to do, with anyone that you don't want.
This is wrong… you need to end this and go no contact with him.
Neither are your opinions!
I know who my husband is friends with.
Same. I'm not friends with them all but I know they exist and remember most of their names. Wanting to hide the existence of a “friends” under the guise of “trust” is worthy of some serious side eye. Sounds like two people who don't talk to each other to me, hardly a marriage.
I'm curious to know how much younger she is than you or your husband? Is she like… a secret child? Maybe that's why he's so considerate in their texts and conversations? That was the first thought that popped into my head.
Definitely weird plus the kiss comment just makes it feel like she’s trying to stir shit up. I don’t see that your husband necessarily has blame- he didn’t intend to feed her, and in awkward situations it’s not uncommon to just go with it, doesn’t mean he particularly enjoyed sharing a fork with her. I would definitely keep a closer eye though, and try to avoid her
That’s because you’re not a professional therapist which is what she needs. She has some deep seated issues and trauma you don’t know about, hence why you can’t help her.
Tell her how you feel but she doesn’t like it and keep going maybe you guys should go on a break then…. I hope things work after the break..
She is 35, she is considered a geriatric mother now, increasing the chances of diseases and problems during pregnancy and postpartum. Also, her children are teens and is hard to go back to changing diapers
You don’t need proof to hold him accountable. If you’re not comfortable being in this relationship with your asshole boyfriend anymore, you can just end it any time you want. YOU DO NOT NEED PROOF.
Could she get some money by working ?
We have the same religion so that’s not what the problem is. I’m annoyed with him because I said he keeps saying he’ll try to be more romantic but he isn’t changing at all. And it’s fine that some people aren’t but I want a guy who is so I’d rather not keep getting my hopes up.
The fact that they still stayed out until like 5 a.m. while you were there is hilarious. Like, if you were ruining the dynamic they could have cut it slightly short? You'd think adults in at least their mid-20s with jobs would be ok just staying out until 2 or 3 a.m. for once.
What if they're secretly filming metal music videos. A lot of them are recorded deep in the forest in places like the Netherlands lol.
In all seriousness though, I hope everything turns out ok
5 years is not that much tbh, and i dont think it cannot be worked around. The problem here is their different views on things. He doesn't seem to enjoy this stuff, she does. Thus he doesn't want her to go out, she loves it. They could both be 26 with different views on it (for the record I'm 25 and don't understand people who stay out clubbing often).
I don't get it… how a piece of shit like your bf have all that power over you so far away of your country?
You need to block him, and you need to seriously go to therapy to learn how to love yourself a little more. Any person who respects and loves herself would kick him out of her life and block him forever from the first shout he gave you because you didn't record yourself having sex whit another person. No… would kick him out at the first indication of forcing you to do something sexual or anything that you don't want to do, with anyone that you don't want.
This is wrong… you need to end this and go no contact with him.
So your about 3 months into this relationship… Nah, time to call it a day.
Free yourself from all the drama that's on its way.
You sound like a lovely person. I have no doubt you will find happiness with someone. Good luck.
I have money in my savings right now but that’s being used to pay the bills cause I’m not working.
Thank you! I really appreciate your point of view on this 🙂