i know i mean we were great when we were together until he got all depressed and just pushed me aside and all. i miss him a lot but at the end of the day he decided.
Leave and take the kids. Pure and simple she will never change and the abuse will bleed off on to the kids. Key thing you leave take the kids with you and start documenting the abuse in detail.
I grew up Christian, have you prayed about it? Do you feel guided in any direction?
I think my community pressured me to accept a non-loving divine voice and confused me to understand guilt & shame as the voice of God… For me now, away from a Christian community, I can recognize more clearly a loving voice that feels much more divine than what the church was convincing me to believe was god…
Yea maybe she likes the stability, but I’m super aware of that kind of girl. She maybe makes out with $50 worth of food a week and I make sure she makes up for that in other ways.
My main concern is I won’t find anything because she can just delete the messages. There’s some stuff I delete sometimes. There’s definitely no late night texts or messages coming through. Like she’s pretty serious about making things right.
I had a grandmother like this. Well not the language stuff but very strict. I used to call her a drill sergeant. I hated visiting her. Luckily she lived halfway across the country. My other grandma was the stereotypical grandma that always had ice cream and bought tons of toys for Christmas and birthdays.
I have PCOS and I'm very lucky that it only took 14 months to conceive. My advice is to see a specialist and they will be able to tell you how healthy your ovaries are/how many egg sacks are left.
You need to have a conversation with him and find out what his timeline looks like. If he wants to start trying in 5 years then that's probably too late. How long will it take to get a home of your own? If it's 6 months it's not really a big deal but years would be to me. Unfortunately I don't think you are compatible anymore if you are ready for children and he wants to wait or doesn't want them at all.
OP, consider the things that friends share. They moan about the people they have crushes on and they reveal the less pleasant parts of themselves. Things you can do with a friend but not with someone you know is harboring lust/romance thoughts about you. She'll probably get over it with some time. But hitting on someone who's trusted you to be a solid platonic friend is a blow. It often feels like a betrayal and it takes some distance to recover from.
With them both being cheaters, I’m not sure them staying together is gonna help anyone avoid either of them
i know i mean we were great when we were together until he got all depressed and just pushed me aside and all. i miss him a lot but at the end of the day he decided.
its been back and forth since
Leave and take the kids. Pure and simple she will never change and the abuse will bleed off on to the kids. Key thing you leave take the kids with you and start documenting the abuse in detail.
She’s trying to appear single or already cheating. gEt yOUr aFfAiRs iN oRDeR
I grew up Christian, have you prayed about it? Do you feel guided in any direction?
I think my community pressured me to accept a non-loving divine voice and confused me to understand guilt & shame as the voice of God… For me now, away from a Christian community, I can recognize more clearly a loving voice that feels much more divine than what the church was convincing me to believe was god…
Curious if you feel any guidance from God?
Yea maybe she likes the stability, but I’m super aware of that kind of girl. She maybe makes out with $50 worth of food a week and I make sure she makes up for that in other ways.
My main concern is I won’t find anything because she can just delete the messages. There’s some stuff I delete sometimes. There’s definitely no late night texts or messages coming through. Like she’s pretty serious about making things right.
Thanks for the thoughtful response.
I had a grandmother like this. Well not the language stuff but very strict. I used to call her a drill sergeant. I hated visiting her. Luckily she lived halfway across the country. My other grandma was the stereotypical grandma that always had ice cream and bought tons of toys for Christmas and birthdays.
I have PCOS and I'm very lucky that it only took 14 months to conceive. My advice is to see a specialist and they will be able to tell you how healthy your ovaries are/how many egg sacks are left.
You need to have a conversation with him and find out what his timeline looks like. If he wants to start trying in 5 years then that's probably too late. How long will it take to get a home of your own? If it's 6 months it's not really a big deal but years would be to me. Unfortunately I don't think you are compatible anymore if you are ready for children and he wants to wait or doesn't want them at all.
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OP, consider the things that friends share. They moan about the people they have crushes on and they reveal the less pleasant parts of themselves. Things you can do with a friend but not with someone you know is harboring lust/romance thoughts about you. She'll probably get over it with some time. But hitting on someone who's trusted you to be a solid platonic friend is a blow. It often feels like a betrayal and it takes some distance to recover from.