That's not what I meant. Just that she makes significantly more than I do, it would take me at least 4-5 months to save up enough for a deposit on a new place.
I understand I was with my partner for 17 years from the age of 16, and it got to the point I loved myself more than I loved him and the way he treated me.
Trust me honey of you don't walk away he will never stop and you will end up drowning yourself to keep him afloat
Don’t expect this to change. You’ve been his mother from the beginning. He hasn’t stepped up to learn anything on his own. He literally said he likes you because you clean—and he gets away with the bare minimum. This is a tough one because some people hate cooking or are terrible at it. It’s not inherently unreasonable that he only makes simple meals. On the other hand, I understand the effort would mean a lot to you. He could even ask to do something together. But I don’t foresee him putting forth any effort into learning. You can’t make him care about his health and I don’t foresee him learning to cook anything healthy; he’s only eating healthy if you make it. This won’t change. So he is dependent on you. He’s like a child that you have to hold hands with to complete basic tasks.
He’s 25; he’s had enough time to figure out how to be an adult. He is not going to change. The real question is: can you tolerate this long term? If not, what’s your exit plan?
You know what's also not ok? Not shutting up when you see a gun pointed at you because of your ego.
Thank you so much! Will do ?
That's not what I meant. Just that she makes significantly more than I do, it would take me at least 4-5 months to save up enough for a deposit on a new place.
This is some manipulative test for you. Just leave her, she isn't even worth confrontation.
I understand I was with my partner for 17 years from the age of 16, and it got to the point I loved myself more than I loved him and the way he treated me.
Trust me honey of you don't walk away he will never stop and you will end up drowning yourself to keep him afloat
Don’t expect this to change. You’ve been his mother from the beginning. He hasn’t stepped up to learn anything on his own. He literally said he likes you because you clean—and he gets away with the bare minimum. This is a tough one because some people hate cooking or are terrible at it. It’s not inherently unreasonable that he only makes simple meals. On the other hand, I understand the effort would mean a lot to you. He could even ask to do something together. But I don’t foresee him putting forth any effort into learning. You can’t make him care about his health and I don’t foresee him learning to cook anything healthy; he’s only eating healthy if you make it. This won’t change. So he is dependent on you. He’s like a child that you have to hold hands with to complete basic tasks.
He’s 25; he’s had enough time to figure out how to be an adult. He is not going to change. The real question is: can you tolerate this long term? If not, what’s your exit plan?