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The age gap of this size wouldn't really matter as much further down the line (like if you were 40 and he was 50) but unfortunately, at this particular stage in life, you are worlds apart. You're right about him being ready to settle down. He's has his young and wild years and has grown more calm. The problem is, you are at the stage in life where you're ready to be living your best young and wild years and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that at all. I'd say it's unfair of him to keep you from experiencing what he already got the chance to do. You got together with him while awfully young, barely an adult, and now, you crave more. You want to discover yourself. In all honesty, I think both of you know that this relationship has pretty much run its natural course and the growing incompatibility between the two of you is impossible to ignore. I'd say moving out on your own is a great idea and will be of great benefit to you. I also think an end to the relationship would also be the best thing at this point (although, I'd avoid this part until you're completely moved out and safe in your new place). It's been said that once you no longer see yourself being with someone in the future, that is the sign that it's over. You deserve to have your best years. Please don't let anyone take that away from you.
He's overreacting, but that should he expected. If you've been together for 7 years, that would mean he was 32 and you were 21. Were you expecting him to be an emotionally mature and reasonable adult?
If you don't want to take on a mother-role, stop making any food for him. Stop inviting him over at all. Agree to meet at his place or out somewhere. When he finally notices, let him know that you are tired of cleaning up after him and making him food. Or just cut to the chase and let him know he's not invited over nor will you be making him food. Obviously, subtle hints don't work because he just doesn't care to clean up or reciprocate.
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The age gap of this size wouldn't really matter as much further down the line (like if you were 40 and he was 50) but unfortunately, at this particular stage in life, you are worlds apart. You're right about him being ready to settle down. He's has his young and wild years and has grown more calm. The problem is, you are at the stage in life where you're ready to be living your best young and wild years and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that at all. I'd say it's unfair of him to keep you from experiencing what he already got the chance to do. You got together with him while awfully young, barely an adult, and now, you crave more. You want to discover yourself. In all honesty, I think both of you know that this relationship has pretty much run its natural course and the growing incompatibility between the two of you is impossible to ignore. I'd say moving out on your own is a great idea and will be of great benefit to you. I also think an end to the relationship would also be the best thing at this point (although, I'd avoid this part until you're completely moved out and safe in your new place). It's been said that once you no longer see yourself being with someone in the future, that is the sign that it's over. You deserve to have your best years. Please don't let anyone take that away from you.
He's overreacting, but that should he expected. If you've been together for 7 years, that would mean he was 32 and you were 21. Were you expecting him to be an emotionally mature and reasonable adult?
Let him go, for yourself.
You tried to be there, tried to be a good partner but he has checked out of the relationship. There's nothing you could do to change it.
Kick him out, cut the dead weight and work on you.
Troll!
If you don't want to take on a mother-role, stop making any food for him. Stop inviting him over at all. Agree to meet at his place or out somewhere. When he finally notices, let him know that you are tired of cleaning up after him and making him food. Or just cut to the chase and let him know he's not invited over nor will you be making him food. Obviously, subtle hints don't work because he just doesn't care to clean up or reciprocate.