Make a fake email. Tie you fake facebook or twitter to that fake email. Use fake information for everything. Do it from a different computer (library or something). It's not like the FBI is going to look for the informer in this case. They are private persons and neither is lkely a hacker.
If the baby is yours this will be a lifelong connection you both have. I say this as someone that had a similar experience.
Relationships are work and if you want to be in your child’s life then there’s a few things you need to consider.
First, at least in my state, she would have sole custody of the child. You would be required to pay support for the child. In my state it is 20% of your net income.
For me it has been very rewarding to have my son. We ultimately married, and while we are having issues right now I hope to resolve them and keep my family together.
So advice from someone that made a lot of mistakes:
1) Learn to communicate. Talk about the things that bother you. Not about how your partner is doing things that bother you. Separate the act from the person. You like the person. You dislike the act.
2) Consider relationship classes together. Classes focus on enriching and building your relationship. Counseling focuses on addressing problems in your relationship. At least in my experience. Address problems but don’t dwell. Learn to build your relationship into something strong and you will weather a lot of problems.
3) Do not at any point for any reason no matter how upset you are ever ever ever threaten to end the relationship. Threatening breakups or divorce undermine the foundation of your family. I learned this the hardest way when I would do it to signal to my partner that I had been pushed too far and needed help. Threatening breakup or divorce is a purely destructive action that only damages trust, safety and security. These are all things that someone who is pregnant will need in abundance. They are moving into a very vulnerable time if their life.
5) Be patient. Take one day at a time. There will be a lot of tough days. It will seem aggravating and illogical and senseless and crazy sometimes. But the best time of my life started when my now-wife was pregnant. It was a great experience. It was scary. It was frustrating. It was wonderful. When you are upset, write it down. Get it out of your system. And then delete it. If you are still mad, sleep on it. If you are still mad, talk to someone else. When you are calmed down, talk your issues through then. Talk about the issue and not the problem. However many days it takes to calm down, take those days one at a time. Anger is a secondary emotion. It comes from something else. Fear or hurt or something else. Understand the real reason you are angry and talk about that. People respond way better to “I’m scared” or “I’m hurt” instead of “I’m angry”.
There are so many more pieces of advice I could give. None of them I followed and I am in a bad place as a result. My wife filed for divorce. I wish I could be back at the point you are at and do differently.
This can be a life long path you go down. An incredible path. But you have to learn that you are part of a bigger whole and that’s it’s not just how you feel about things.
If she isn’t ready, that’s fine. Don’t do anything that pushes her away. As hard as it might be, talk about other things. Ask about her experience. Be a safe place, someone she talks to. She will gravitate towards you if you are not a source of stress, chaos or conflict. And after time, you will figure the rest out.
He got defensive because he's up to no good. He cut her off because he didn't want her communicating to him in a tone which would give away the level of they're relationship to you. He got quiet when asked about the works dinner because he's already going with her and you're not invited. He got defensive because you caught him off guard with the phone call / questions. Also don't feel sorry for this bitch she's taking your man…….
What kind of idiot ejaculated inside a woman without confirming she's on birth control?! He should've worn a condom AND spermicide….hardly baby trapping if the dumbass wasn't using protection in the first place….anyway
That aside paternity needs to be established. Prental paternity can be established before birth
Also let him know that you’ve been seeing other people. Just cuz I don’t think you should take this without landing a good parting shot. A dent in his armor would do him some good; and lift your spirits as you walk off into the sunset…
Ugh he sounds pretty bad and not someone I'd want to be the father of my kids. God forbid you have a daughter or you get sexually abused in some way there is a good chance he will victim blame in some way small or big. Can you on-line with that? Instead of focusing on controlling you he should encourage you to stay safe, be your protector and preach to men to not sexualize women, he has his logic fucked up girl.
I don't think there's such thing as too much unless the person says it is. I personally hit on my bf constantly and I wish he complimented me more. I've even told him I wish he'd sexualize me more ? (like the compliments you say)
Yes!!!
Make a fake email. Tie you fake facebook or twitter to that fake email. Use fake information for everything. Do it from a different computer (library or something). It's not like the FBI is going to look for the informer in this case. They are private persons and neither is lkely a hacker.
If the baby is yours this will be a lifelong connection you both have. I say this as someone that had a similar experience.
Relationships are work and if you want to be in your child’s life then there’s a few things you need to consider.
First, at least in my state, she would have sole custody of the child. You would be required to pay support for the child. In my state it is 20% of your net income.
For me it has been very rewarding to have my son. We ultimately married, and while we are having issues right now I hope to resolve them and keep my family together.
So advice from someone that made a lot of mistakes:
1) Learn to communicate. Talk about the things that bother you. Not about how your partner is doing things that bother you. Separate the act from the person. You like the person. You dislike the act.
2) Consider relationship classes together. Classes focus on enriching and building your relationship. Counseling focuses on addressing problems in your relationship. At least in my experience. Address problems but don’t dwell. Learn to build your relationship into something strong and you will weather a lot of problems.
3) Do not at any point for any reason no matter how upset you are ever ever ever threaten to end the relationship. Threatening breakups or divorce undermine the foundation of your family. I learned this the hardest way when I would do it to signal to my partner that I had been pushed too far and needed help. Threatening breakup or divorce is a purely destructive action that only damages trust, safety and security. These are all things that someone who is pregnant will need in abundance. They are moving into a very vulnerable time if their life.
5) Be patient. Take one day at a time. There will be a lot of tough days. It will seem aggravating and illogical and senseless and crazy sometimes. But the best time of my life started when my now-wife was pregnant. It was a great experience. It was scary. It was frustrating. It was wonderful. When you are upset, write it down. Get it out of your system. And then delete it. If you are still mad, sleep on it. If you are still mad, talk to someone else. When you are calmed down, talk your issues through then. Talk about the issue and not the problem. However many days it takes to calm down, take those days one at a time. Anger is a secondary emotion. It comes from something else. Fear or hurt or something else. Understand the real reason you are angry and talk about that. People respond way better to “I’m scared” or “I’m hurt” instead of “I’m angry”.
There are so many more pieces of advice I could give. None of them I followed and I am in a bad place as a result. My wife filed for divorce. I wish I could be back at the point you are at and do differently.
This can be a life long path you go down. An incredible path. But you have to learn that you are part of a bigger whole and that’s it’s not just how you feel about things.
If she isn’t ready, that’s fine. Don’t do anything that pushes her away. As hard as it might be, talk about other things. Ask about her experience. Be a safe place, someone she talks to. She will gravitate towards you if you are not a source of stress, chaos or conflict. And after time, you will figure the rest out.
Good luck
And if things don't work out, she will have a work history gap. Even worse if she stops working on the degree
He got defensive because he's up to no good. He cut her off because he didn't want her communicating to him in a tone which would give away the level of they're relationship to you. He got quiet when asked about the works dinner because he's already going with her and you're not invited. He got defensive because you caught him off guard with the phone call / questions. Also don't feel sorry for this bitch she's taking your man…….
What kind of idiot ejaculated inside a woman without confirming she's on birth control?! He should've worn a condom AND spermicide….hardly baby trapping if the dumbass wasn't using protection in the first place….anyway
That aside paternity needs to be established. Prental paternity can be established before birth
Also let him know that you’ve been seeing other people. Just cuz I don’t think you should take this without landing a good parting shot. A dent in his armor would do him some good; and lift your spirits as you walk off into the sunset…
Ugh he sounds pretty bad and not someone I'd want to be the father of my kids. God forbid you have a daughter or you get sexually abused in some way there is a good chance he will victim blame in some way small or big. Can you on-line with that? Instead of focusing on controlling you he should encourage you to stay safe, be your protector and preach to men to not sexualize women, he has his logic fucked up girl.
I don't think there's such thing as too much unless the person says it is. I personally hit on my bf constantly and I wish he complimented me more. I've even told him I wish he'd sexualize me more ? (like the compliments you say)