Agree with everything in this comment. I'd also say don't tolerate this or wait for him to realise he's wrong and apologise. Leave. No it's not an extreme step. You've already told him you're hurt and he chose to victimise himself. You've communicated. He's refused to accept your feelings.
It is like the creep you though was your friend and one night try to fuck you.
Call his wife. Tell her you don't want anything sexual with him. That you are her are entirely on the same line. And that you don't know how to process that treason from his husband.
Ask her to talk in a Cafe just you and her. Because you must address the problem and show a united front.
but she's been so pushy about it and it's freaking me out because I still think the same way as before that marriage isn't important for me. I also never want to have kids and she fortunately is on the same page in this regard.
Marriage in itself can be a dealbreaker. Sit her down and talk about how you feel.
also we are together 24/7, and a while back I asked her if it would be possible to rent our separate places for at least 1 year so I can work a bit on healing my wounds (I'm severely and clinically depressed) and she started crying so much that it broke my heart and I never brought it up again.
I mean….most couples who suddenly take a “break” like that will break up.
But being together 24/7 isn't healthy. Are you both in therapy?
Geeks are by definition interested in interesting, complicated, nuanced things. It's what makes them special.
Geeks are by definition interested in interesting, complicated, nuanced things. It's what makes them special.
She doesn’t know if she’s coming back.
My wife is confused.
She’s not confused, she’s leaving her husband and her child.
Draw up custody papers before she leaves. Anything could happen to her and you need to protect your child.
Agree with everything in this comment. I'd also say don't tolerate this or wait for him to realise he's wrong and apologise. Leave. No it's not an extreme step. You've already told him you're hurt and he chose to victimise himself. You've communicated. He's refused to accept your feelings.
It is like the creep you though was your friend and one night try to fuck you.
Call his wife. Tell her you don't want anything sexual with him. That you are her are entirely on the same line. And that you don't know how to process that treason from his husband.
Ask her to talk in a Cafe just you and her. Because you must address the problem and show a united front.
Tbh, you seem so dense that I am starting to think you may be on the spectrum.
but she's been so pushy about it and it's freaking me out because I still think the same way as before that marriage isn't important for me. I also never want to have kids and she fortunately is on the same page in this regard.
Marriage in itself can be a dealbreaker. Sit her down and talk about how you feel.
also we are together 24/7, and a while back I asked her if it would be possible to rent our separate places for at least 1 year so I can work a bit on healing my wounds (I'm severely and clinically depressed) and she started crying so much that it broke my heart and I never brought it up again.
I mean….most couples who suddenly take a “break” like that will break up.
But being together 24/7 isn't healthy. Are you both in therapy?
Who hurt you