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There is no ‘but’ here.
A boundary in which you can’t make contact with other people? In no way is that normal boundary setting behaviour, even if she accepted it.
It’s ludicrous, controlling and fucking bizarre.
I don’t know when Reddit decided that ‘boundaries’ are the new thing. You can have boundaries, of course. But disguised controlling behaviour is not a boundary, it’s an excuse to control.
Lol just commenting because everyone is missing this somehow…. Obviously the therapist didn’t say that! Zero reason to trust your cheating partner on anything let alone something so stupid it sounds like a lie a four year old will tell.
Best of luck OP! Sorry your girlfriend sucks, hope she’s not your girlfriend anymore!
Dude, this was a bad situation from the get go. Never hire anyone you’re sleeping with or sleep with anyone you hire. So easy to say, “we’d love to have you but since you go out with me, it’s a no go.” But you had to make u to our dad hire her and now he needs to fire her. This is going to get awkward
I don’t think so. He feels…desperate in an unusual way. The sobbing is also a weirdly emotional response. I think he might have some trauma around school and is determined to protect his hypothetical child from it. He’s a physicist in one of the top institutions. That’s a lot of nude work and you need to like it about it in order to enjoy. It’s quite possible that he was pushed into it.
No. Nope. This is about trauma. She should see a doctor first to rule out any physical problems but my guess is that she is perfectly content and doesn’t want to try or is afraid to. She probably needs therapy. But. She has to want it.
In a relationship, pleasure is a two way street. You should not do anything that you don't want to do. If he can't or won't compromise he can be replaced. It's your choice. You deserve to be happy, with or without him.
People are going to watch it, it's just going to happen. You give everyone an internet device that fits in their pocket and Pornhub is free, so… it's gonna happen. He's a grown man, he can do that if he wants. It's only problematic if you or he have religious terms that explicitly forbid it, if he's watching illegal/underage content, or if it has negatively impacted your sex life. If you have a problem with it, leave. If he says he will try to stop, he probably won't because… it's not really that big of a deal. No one's forcing you to stay in a relationship you're uncomfortable being in. Always remember – “NO” is a complete sentence.
That being said, I hear the phrase “I have so much trauma from my past where someone did _______ to me…” that's fair, that happens, and I'm sorry you had to put up with that. But your boyfriend didn't do that, so don't hold him to certain standards because someone in the past did something awful. He didn't do that; they did. Hold THEM accountable for their actions; not your current partner. I can't tell you how many stagnant/unhealthy relationships continue despite obvious incompatibility… based solely on “past trauma” and “insecurities because of an ex.” Guess what? If you're still making decisions based on issues with past exes, you reeeeeeeeeeally shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. Get to a healthy point where you can love someone without having pre-requisites. Your poor boyfriend needs therapy and you're quite literally invalidating his trauma and labeling your own issues as more important/more valid than his. Don't do that. Not a good look.
That’s also fair, I’ve seen that happen. Maybe op can get an admission from his wife in text form and have proof. Either way, if she chooses to believe him or not is her choice. Personally I’d want to know, I know a lot of people would.
There is no ‘but’ here.
A boundary in which you can’t make contact with other people? In no way is that normal boundary setting behaviour, even if she accepted it.
It’s ludicrous, controlling and fucking bizarre.
I don’t know when Reddit decided that ‘boundaries’ are the new thing. You can have boundaries, of course. But disguised controlling behaviour is not a boundary, it’s an excuse to control.
It’s spray tan though, no?
Lol just commenting because everyone is missing this somehow…. Obviously the therapist didn’t say that! Zero reason to trust your cheating partner on anything let alone something so stupid it sounds like a lie a four year old will tell.
Best of luck OP! Sorry your girlfriend sucks, hope she’s not your girlfriend anymore!
Dude, this was a bad situation from the get go. Never hire anyone you’re sleeping with or sleep with anyone you hire. So easy to say, “we’d love to have you but since you go out with me, it’s a no go.” But you had to make u to our dad hire her and now he needs to fire her. This is going to get awkward
I don’t think so. He feels…desperate in an unusual way. The sobbing is also a weirdly emotional response. I think he might have some trauma around school and is determined to protect his hypothetical child from it. He’s a physicist in one of the top institutions. That’s a lot of nude work and you need to like it about it in order to enjoy. It’s quite possible that he was pushed into it.
No. Nope. This is about trauma. She should see a doctor first to rule out any physical problems but my guess is that she is perfectly content and doesn’t want to try or is afraid to. She probably needs therapy. But. She has to want it.
Ur issue is w her lying and your solution is that she should've.. Lied differently?
Moral compass of a dolphin???if anyone knew anything about dolphins they would know what this actually means.
In a relationship, pleasure is a two way street. You should not do anything that you don't want to do. If he can't or won't compromise he can be replaced. It's your choice. You deserve to be happy, with or without him.
stay with her for a few days when she has the abortion and cook and clean for her, run her baths, bring her very hot water bottles etc etc?
Tell him to not come. I’ve been to so many kids parties and never saw alcohol served nor would I expect there to be any
Why should he respect you if you don’t respect yourself? Why are you in this relationship?
People are going to watch it, it's just going to happen. You give everyone an internet device that fits in their pocket and Pornhub is free, so… it's gonna happen. He's a grown man, he can do that if he wants. It's only problematic if you or he have religious terms that explicitly forbid it, if he's watching illegal/underage content, or if it has negatively impacted your sex life. If you have a problem with it, leave. If he says he will try to stop, he probably won't because… it's not really that big of a deal. No one's forcing you to stay in a relationship you're uncomfortable being in. Always remember – “NO” is a complete sentence.
That being said, I hear the phrase “I have so much trauma from my past where someone did _______ to me…” that's fair, that happens, and I'm sorry you had to put up with that. But your boyfriend didn't do that, so don't hold him to certain standards because someone in the past did something awful. He didn't do that; they did. Hold THEM accountable for their actions; not your current partner. I can't tell you how many stagnant/unhealthy relationships continue despite obvious incompatibility… based solely on “past trauma” and “insecurities because of an ex.” Guess what? If you're still making decisions based on issues with past exes, you reeeeeeeeeeally shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. Get to a healthy point where you can love someone without having pre-requisites. Your poor boyfriend needs therapy and you're quite literally invalidating his trauma and labeling your own issues as more important/more valid than his. Don't do that. Not a good look.
That’s also fair, I’ve seen that happen. Maybe op can get an admission from his wife in text form and have proof. Either way, if she chooses to believe him or not is her choice. Personally I’d want to know, I know a lot of people would.
what did you guys fight over? I think that’s pretty relevant.
Saw one the other day “my boyfriend is TOO charming” the cringe was so strong i almost climaxed