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I (24F) was put on anti-depressants around 8 months ago, and one of the potential side effects that I was told about was weight gain. Although this concerned me, I was willing to take the risk so that I could possibly feel happy again.
I didn't weigh myself until today, when my boyfriend (28M) commented that I “was getting a little plump”. He said this on Christmas morning, and it has ruined my entire day.
When I started the anti-depressants I weighed 112 pounds (I'm 5' 4″) and today I weigh 124 pounds. His comment has made me so insecure, that I want to stop taking the anti-depressants, even though they have been helping me.
I didn't take my anti-depressants tonight, and have been crying on and off. My boyfriend said that he's “concerned for my health” and that's why he commented on my weight.
Does this sound like good faith by my boyfriend? I would appreciate some advice.
Doesn't seem easy to do. My feelings are genuine for her and we have a long history together. We were super close since a long long time. But I guess I need to take a step.
He may not fully grasp the situation. He may not think it is a big deal for you. He maybe unable to show the same level of care towards your brother.
We can't really be sure unless you discuss your feelings with him. Ask him if he cares about your brother, bring him with you and see if he shows some empathy/interest in the situation.
Don't listen to these redditors who always say “BREAK UP”
I used a condom and I told him who I slept with before we got back together. He didn't like it but said that was fair. However for a few years after he had some insecurities about the closeness my ex (I didn't mention but the guy he hated was my toxic ex) and I shared while dating and sleeping together. However that has been long done with.
He didnt actually do anything wrong. I do feel bad about how I brought the ex back into my life for petty reasons. Yeah, maybe therapy will help. I have a therapist, we just stopped meeting awhile ago.
Talk to your family. Be open & honest with them, show them this post. Let them support you.
Don’t fall for the sunk-cost fallacy.
If, by chance, your family still wants you to marry him, then meet with vendors to see if you can change days or get refunds. Get your parents back as much money as possible. Then do what is right for you: pause, cancel, whatever. When you can, pay the remainder to your parents.
Uh.. Im sorry but this sounds like ur 15 or something. Making him change her name in his phone. Im with him on this. Dating a co worker then getting jealous of his friend he knew b4 u. Tf. Where do u work? Im a big proponent of not dating co workers.
Your jaded views tell me you’re surrounding yourself with the wrong people. I’m sad for you that this has been your experience in life. Maybe reconsider your social circle and you’ll find less negativity in the world around you.
Friend doesn't get to decide what you do with your body, just be ready for the friendship to end!
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below.
I (24F) was put on anti-depressants around 8 months ago, and one of the potential side effects that I was told about was weight gain. Although this concerned me, I was willing to take the risk so that I could possibly feel happy again.
I didn't weigh myself until today, when my boyfriend (28M) commented that I “was getting a little plump”. He said this on Christmas morning, and it has ruined my entire day.
When I started the anti-depressants I weighed 112 pounds (I'm 5' 4″) and today I weigh 124 pounds. His comment has made me so insecure, that I want to stop taking the anti-depressants, even though they have been helping me.
I didn't take my anti-depressants tonight, and have been crying on and off. My boyfriend said that he's “concerned for my health” and that's why he commented on my weight.
Does this sound like good faith by my boyfriend? I would appreciate some advice.
Doesn't seem easy to do. My feelings are genuine for her and we have a long history together. We were super close since a long long time. But I guess I need to take a step.
As usual, redditors want you to break this up.
Talk. Communicate to him first.
He may not fully grasp the situation. He may not think it is a big deal for you. He maybe unable to show the same level of care towards your brother.
We can't really be sure unless you discuss your feelings with him. Ask him if he cares about your brother, bring him with you and see if he shows some empathy/interest in the situation.
Don't listen to these redditors who always say “BREAK UP”
I used a condom and I told him who I slept with before we got back together. He didn't like it but said that was fair. However for a few years after he had some insecurities about the closeness my ex (I didn't mention but the guy he hated was my toxic ex) and I shared while dating and sleeping together. However that has been long done with.
He didnt actually do anything wrong. I do feel bad about how I brought the ex back into my life for petty reasons. Yeah, maybe therapy will help. I have a therapist, we just stopped meeting awhile ago.
Talk to your family. Be open & honest with them, show them this post. Let them support you.
Don’t fall for the sunk-cost fallacy.
If, by chance, your family still wants you to marry him, then meet with vendors to see if you can change days or get refunds. Get your parents back as much money as possible. Then do what is right for you: pause, cancel, whatever. When you can, pay the remainder to your parents.
Uh.. Im sorry but this sounds like ur 15 or something. Making him change her name in his phone. Im with him on this. Dating a co worker then getting jealous of his friend he knew b4 u. Tf. Where do u work? Im a big proponent of not dating co workers.
Your jaded views tell me you’re surrounding yourself with the wrong people. I’m sad for you that this has been your experience in life. Maybe reconsider your social circle and you’ll find less negativity in the world around you.