I wish my 26 year old childless girlfriend of 4 months would try to come in my house and tell me how to raise my special needs kid. I'd show her the door very quickly.
this happened with my ex. he was a very warm intelligent welcoming person, and definitely ..he welcomed the praise from the ladies. never shot it down, and never defended me when other girls would put me down.
turned me into someone I'm not. just like you said in your post. I hated it.
in the end, it didn't work. we were never on the same page on this subject. there was always a lack of trust, even if he never acted on anything.
To me, it screams depression. Is he on meds already? Also ADHD symptoms gets worse with depression. He needs to take meds for that too. Life changing! Encourage for seeking treatment. It's helpful for him to know he must be the one in charge of getting his health, meds do really help and then there will be possibility for him to seek employment, whether a handy job ( it helps with depression) for a while or any simple job that he can show up, interact with ppl and earn some money, it will help him both mentally and financially. When he feels ready, he can come up with other future plans, regarding his health and finances. But you can encourage him to start small. If he did lost all his money, he probably feels shame too
Anyways, what he described seems like a life coach. If he cannot afford this, it's okay. Just baby steps until he feels like himself again
It doesn't sound like they lack sexual attraction, it sounds like they're missing each other in terms of sexual needs, which is a different issue.
Counseling is what you do to prove that you really did try everything
This is a pretty narrow view of counseling. Why bother at all if this is the only purpose? The primary purpose of counseling is to improve your communication, which seems to be the underlying issue in all of this. If you're just doing it to prove you didn't give up too soon, then you may as well save your time and money.
A good therapist however will help you see why you shouldn't have to be there in the first place
So you basically think therapy is useless? I really can't agree with that. A good therapist will help you move forward in whatever way makes the most sense. Plenty of marital issues are reconcilable with the help of a mediator.
Wow thank you so much for the perspective. Sometimes you get so lost in the situation, it’s hard to be rational. Thanks for this.
You might be surprised what can fit up there when you're 100% turned on.
I wish my 26 year old childless girlfriend of 4 months would try to come in my house and tell me how to raise my special needs kid. I'd show her the door very quickly.
Tell her how what you told us. Tell her how it makes you feel. Like others said it's possible she doesn't see how it's affecting you.
COMMUNICATE
Did he do anything to her or with her out of the usual?
Is he completely barred from dating anyone who is Jewish?
this happened with my ex. he was a very warm intelligent welcoming person, and definitely ..he welcomed the praise from the ladies. never shot it down, and never defended me when other girls would put me down.
turned me into someone I'm not. just like you said in your post. I hated it.
in the end, it didn't work. we were never on the same page on this subject. there was always a lack of trust, even if he never acted on anything.
you deserve security and peace of mind.
To me, it screams depression. Is he on meds already? Also ADHD symptoms gets worse with depression. He needs to take meds for that too. Life changing! Encourage for seeking treatment. It's helpful for him to know he must be the one in charge of getting his health, meds do really help and then there will be possibility for him to seek employment, whether a handy job ( it helps with depression) for a while or any simple job that he can show up, interact with ppl and earn some money, it will help him both mentally and financially. When he feels ready, he can come up with other future plans, regarding his health and finances. But you can encourage him to start small. If he did lost all his money, he probably feels shame too
Anyways, what he described seems like a life coach. If he cannot afford this, it's okay. Just baby steps until he feels like himself again
It doesn't sound like they lack sexual attraction, it sounds like they're missing each other in terms of sexual needs, which is a different issue.
Counseling is what you do to prove that you really did try everything
This is a pretty narrow view of counseling. Why bother at all if this is the only purpose? The primary purpose of counseling is to improve your communication, which seems to be the underlying issue in all of this. If you're just doing it to prove you didn't give up too soon, then you may as well save your time and money.
A good therapist however will help you see why you shouldn't have to be there in the first place
So you basically think therapy is useless? I really can't agree with that. A good therapist will help you move forward in whatever way makes the most sense. Plenty of marital issues are reconcilable with the help of a mediator.