Cheating is cheating, don't try and justify or make an excuse for what he did. So what if he didn't have sex, spooning with someone else I'd an intimate act because let's evaluate what spooning entails. Her ass pressed against his dick, probably getting a little naked and then just regular cuddling is one hand/arm around a woman's breasts. That's not something friends do, I sure as hell don't spoon with friends.
He violated your trust, and LDR are extremely tough to do because you can't be together physically often. He needs to evaluate if he can truly handle a LDR. It isn't fair to you that you have worked on being better but he still is feeling it isn't enough that he has to go out and spoon someone.
Thank you. I just don't know how long to wait, or how I'll be sure that he's gained enough independence to make it work. I feel like I'm trying to change him by having this nonnegotiable in place.
Thank you for understanding me. Im no way nar perfect but I too dont deserve to feel this way . I guess its better for both of us to breakup. Im torn apart this woman means everything to me, she is literally the love of my life but sometimes things arent meant to be . Thank you for the advice ❤️
I understand and thank you. ?? you've been very attentive and helpful. I do want it to be clarified that I am not necessarily angry with her over this. I just wish she took my physical needs as seriously as I take her needs. And, most importantly, I simply want to feel attractive and wanted by the one woman that I'm supposed to be attractive to and wanted by. I need no other want and lust from external sources, just my partner. Quality over quantity.
Again, thank you. I'll go back to the drawing board on this and see what she and I can either work out or simply come to terms with. I find ending my relationship over sex to be a bit extreme, but I do feel as though this ventures into the territory of not taking one's partners needs seriously and being nonchalant about them. I feel that all partners should have their reasonable needs reconciled in a relationship whether they're male, female, etc. I like to believe I have a long life ahead of me and lack of lusty sex as well as loving intimacy for the entirety of that life simply doesn't sit well with me nor does the idea of my needs being unimportant to my partner..
Hmmm.. I'll kindly recommunicate these issues and see what I can do to make such a thing easy or interesting for her or discover the root of the situation on both my and her side. Who knows, maybe my need for such want and validation is also not necessarily a good thing and I should consider attempting to lower my needs and libido.
The amount of other girls he have, I have no idea but I could tell he has one nearby. He gives financial support to his parents (but his parents are business owners), says he’s busy at work, and he’s a known cheapskate lol there are instances where he’s lazy and just wanted sexting
We’re both 19
He's deleting her nudes
I mean you are the one in the relationship
And so, if you wouldn't do that to another, don't let someone do that to you.
Cheating is cheating, don't try and justify or make an excuse for what he did. So what if he didn't have sex, spooning with someone else I'd an intimate act because let's evaluate what spooning entails. Her ass pressed against his dick, probably getting a little naked and then just regular cuddling is one hand/arm around a woman's breasts. That's not something friends do, I sure as hell don't spoon with friends.
He violated your trust, and LDR are extremely tough to do because you can't be together physically often. He needs to evaluate if he can truly handle a LDR. It isn't fair to you that you have worked on being better but he still is feeling it isn't enough that he has to go out and spoon someone.
Thank you. I just don't know how long to wait, or how I'll be sure that he's gained enough independence to make it work. I feel like I'm trying to change him by having this nonnegotiable in place.
Hear hear
Thank you for understanding me. Im no way nar perfect but I too dont deserve to feel this way . I guess its better for both of us to breakup. Im torn apart this woman means everything to me, she is literally the love of my life but sometimes things arent meant to be . Thank you for the advice ❤️
I understand and thank you. ?? you've been very attentive and helpful. I do want it to be clarified that I am not necessarily angry with her over this. I just wish she took my physical needs as seriously as I take her needs. And, most importantly, I simply want to feel attractive and wanted by the one woman that I'm supposed to be attractive to and wanted by. I need no other want and lust from external sources, just my partner. Quality over quantity.
Again, thank you. I'll go back to the drawing board on this and see what she and I can either work out or simply come to terms with. I find ending my relationship over sex to be a bit extreme, but I do feel as though this ventures into the territory of not taking one's partners needs seriously and being nonchalant about them. I feel that all partners should have their reasonable needs reconciled in a relationship whether they're male, female, etc. I like to believe I have a long life ahead of me and lack of lusty sex as well as loving intimacy for the entirety of that life simply doesn't sit well with me nor does the idea of my needs being unimportant to my partner..
Hmmm.. I'll kindly recommunicate these issues and see what I can do to make such a thing easy or interesting for her or discover the root of the situation on both my and her side. Who knows, maybe my need for such want and validation is also not necessarily a good thing and I should consider attempting to lower my needs and libido.
The amount of other girls he have, I have no idea but I could tell he has one nearby. He gives financial support to his parents (but his parents are business owners), says he’s busy at work, and he’s a known cheapskate lol there are instances where he’s lazy and just wanted sexting
She's not interested and your friend is an idiot.