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Date: October 15, 2022
Throw, you're describing a GF who seems to have a very strong abandonment fear. That would explain why, a few months into your relationship, she started showing strong jealousy over harmless events involving other women — and has tried to isolate you away from your close friends and family members.
She would view your spending time with your friends/family as your choosing them over her. It also would explain why she's unable to trust you — and why she probably hates being alone by herself.
This strong abandonment fear — as well as her abusive and controlling behaviors — may be due to her having very weak control over her own emotions (i.e., a lack of emotional skills she had no opportunity to acquire in childhood). My exW has this problem. If that is an issue for your GF, you likely have been seeing 3 other warning signs.
First, you would be seeing her rely heavily on black-white thinking, wherein she tends to categorize some people as “all good” (“with me”) or “all bad” (“against me”) and will recategorize them — in just a few seconds — from one polar extreme to the other based on a minor infraction.
Because she also uses B-W thinking in judging HERSELF, she would rarely acknowledge making a mistake or having a flaw. Doing so would imply, in her mind, she is “all bad.” She thus would blame nearly all misfortunes and mistakes on you and view herself as “The Victim.”
Further, to validate her “victim” status, she would keep a detailed mental list of every infraction/mistake you ever did (real or imagined) and would not hesitate to pull out the entire list to defend herself in the smallest, most insignificant disagreement with you. Moreover, this B-W thinking also would be evident in her frequent use of all-or-nothing expressions like “you ALWAYS…” and “you NEVER….”
Second, you would not see her expressing her anger to casual friends, classmates, or total strangers. She usually gets along fine with them. Rather, her tantrums almost exclusively would be expressed against a close loved one (e.g., against you or her parents).
Third, you are convinced she truly loves you. But you often see her flipping, on a dime, between Jekyll (loving you) and Hyde (devaluing you), frequently making you feel like you're “walking on eggshells.” Such flips would occur in a few seconds in response to some minor thing you say or do.
Throw, have you been seeing strong occurrences of these 3 red flags?
Maybe she prefers black guys??
I am seriously starting to wonder if you’ve reverse the points of view and you are the bf who made the inappropriate remark but dint want to admit it.
You go to grea t lengths to point out how awesome the bf who has the social niceties of your average ape is, but can’t offer the same grace to your father who was no doubt embarrassed by said bf.
So yeah, I think it was you who stuffed up and you were hoping Reddit would validate you and are getting defensive that nope, you need to do better n
Just pretend you are an entirely new person.
My ex is hesitant to sit his parents down and talk to them frankly.
But seriously, this is what needs to happen. When me and my ex broke up and then got back together, thats exactly what I did. I sat down with her parents when I first came back to their place and explained what the situation was, and that I hope it wont affect our relationship too much for too long. They took it well.
We still broke up for good like a year later lmao, so maybe idk anything.
Keep pepper spray on you
If you are in the United States, buy, train yourself with, and carry a gun.
Pepper spray is an excellent non-lethal deterrent but please have something stronger as a back-up, because 'having a nude time seeing and breathing' does not translate to 'unable to do seriously injure or kill'.
Yes! You put my thoughts into words. I don’t think he’s that kind of person in general, but this definitely felt like a manipulation tactic.
You say you are seeking therapy but also that your mental health problems will “always be there”. What exactly are your problems, and has there been any improvement with them?
I think that it is better that he was honest about wanting to fix the relationship first rather than marrying just simply because you've been a long time together. Whilst marriage is supposed to be in sickness & good health, when you marry someone, you are also effectively making a statement about being totally happy with the current status quo relationship (and it doesn't sound like he is).
“dance around, sing, chat away to him when he's watching TV / Chilling”- Sorry but if I was trying to chill and watch TV and someone suddenly started singing and dancing in the room, that'd be annoying AF.
Maybe he's depressed or maybe he's giving you his first red flag… ? Difficult to say for now.
You've got a good point. If it were true she should have communicated it better.
I thought that a dinner can still be had without posting it to the socials this one time. But Yes, it does seem that she minds.
Yes. She likely learned this as a child and continues the maladaptive behaviour.
She needs treatment for it, and separately, you should have couples’ therapy.
So, he didn't give a specific reason, I take it. It sounds like you're just guessing. And the wording in your post is a bit confusing. Is he the one with a higher libido, or are you? Or were you saying that you think is about the same, but his Catholic upbringing has caused him to suppress it? Sorry if I'm asking too many questions, but having more answers gives me higher confidence in my advice.
How frequent are these recent texts? I ask because if they're infrequent enough, he might just be trying to maintain a friendship, which is what's implied when two people agree to keep in touch.
If this is something that bothers you, why not say gifts aren’t necessary, leave it as such, and donate everything you get?
I feel like your girlfriend and I have a very similar mindset of being kind to ex's. I have two ex's that I remained friends with. One ex and I were never sexual so it was easy to remain friends. My other ex however acts just like your girlfriends ex. Always wanting to hang out with me and sometimes acting inappropriate with me.
I started dating my current boyfriend and cut ties with the one who would try to make sexual advances against my will. She's playing dumb when she turned off her location. I used to do that with one of my ex's. I was just buying weed but he would always shame me for that. She clearly is hiding something from you and it's not right.
It doesn't make a lot of sense that she only talks negatively about this man and still continues to hang out with him. Maybe he's giving her a different type of attention that you're not. Or maybe she's not completely ready to let this guy go because she like the exciting drama. sex boundaries before he gets too comfortable.