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Yeah I have my first in-perspn counseling appointment next week because I don't want to end up in a similar situation. I made a lot of excuses for him and his behavior and the stuff I went through could've been prevented if I had left the first month after he did disrespectful things but I was his “first relationship” and he “didn't know how to act”. I don't take any offense to what you said because you are right that I was accepting inexcusable behavior
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You can’t take it back. What’s done is done.
My best advice is to get yourself into counseling and figure out why you made those choices in the first place, and what you can work on to avoid feeling the need to do those things in the future. Counseling only works if you take it seriously though.
You can’t un-hurt feelings. You can’t fully regain their trust. But you CAN make a legitimate effort to improve yourself and not do stupid hurtful shit in the future.
You fucked up. Learn from it, move on, and try to be better before seeking another relationship. Stop trying to give yourself the “but I apologized so I’m not a bad person, right?” gold star of validation. Sorry if that’s blunt. These are the kindest words I could come up with.
To even have an idea about what to talk about with him you need to work on figuring out what would be interesting to you.
Is this a general disinterest in sex? Are there particular acts you would be interested in trying or that you fantasize about? Are there tings you see in porn that turn you on and that you'd like to experiment with?
You mentioned that the other guy taking a gentle approach was not appealing. Would you prefer your bf take a more aggressive approach? Are you interested in experimenting with issues of power and control in sex?
If you feel you have a general disinterest/low sex drive you may want to speak with a doctor. Low testosterone levels (and yes, women have some testosterone!) can significantly contribute to low sex drive.
And maybe your boyfriend just isn't the person for you.
No.
he believes that it’s wrong and has even gone as far as saying he “now identifies as a white woman” when he’s literally an Indian/ Filipino guy. I told him he was being insensitive and ignorant and how offensive this is to both the trans community and the people who have lost a trans loved one.
This is incredibly insensitive and ignorant and on so many levels. If he thinks it's a mental disorder, then why he is being insensitive towards people he believes are struggling? Does he make fun of people experiencing dementia by copying them?
It sounds like he's transphobic because critical discussion of gender makes him uncomfortable because it forces him to question and evaluate his own masculinity. I'm not necessarily trying to disparage him here either because it's much better for him to learn than to provoke him. One component that allows toxic masculinity to persist is because men are socialized from a very young age that their inherent value as a person is derived and reflective of their perceived masculinity. Without even approaching the topic of trans equality, what does gender equality mean to him? Is he able to define gender equality without being misogynistic? Does he understand the difference between sex and gender? Is he capable of scientific literacy? Understanding his perspective through that framework may offer a path for him to recognize why his comment and opinions on trans equality is offensive (and wrong).