I have, but it always comes back to “the liberals”. Anytime I ask, she gets riled up and raises her voice (imitating one of her favorite talk show hosts), and honestly that’s when it becomes in one ear out the other.
For example, in Operation Iraqi Freedom/Enduring Freedom, service members were being discharged for refusing to go to war. I agree with that, so did. she (I’m a US vet and was enlisted at that time). Service members who refused the vaccine have been fighting a lawsuit to not get discharged (I think they should be discharged but I digress).
She actually said, and I quote “The liberals want them to be discharged so they can have a Marxist takeover”. I’m not sure where I can go with that.
Do not fuck around with someone (even jokingly) accusing you of rape. Even with undeniable proof of your innocence, your life WILL be ruined by the accusation alone.
Save all evidence of your conversations about the alleged “rape” and NEVER TOUCH THAT WOMAN AGAIN.
The rest of your post only reinforces the fact that you need to terminate this relationship IMMEDIATELY.
She’s not interested in you mate. If she was she would be asking you out for date. Not telling you that she’s going on a date with someone else. Abundance mentality bro. The door on this one closed long time ago
If the account is in your name, sell off “Their Share” and hand them a check. Or even better. Give them the money that they loaned you plus some interest and let them know that you are paying them back in full, additionally reimbursing them for your schooling so they can't hold it over your head, if you'd like.
If anything, you did all the work and built yourself up. If they aren't proud of your achievement, and only care about the money, tell them to invest it themselves.
We're Jewish. We're not exactly Orthodox (and I'm admittedly much more observant than she is), but in Judaism, we tend to marry quick. The idea is that you really get to know the other person with marriage, not before. Also consider that things like premarital sex and cohabitation are a no-no.
By the way, I'm obviously the one who proposed, but it was solicited and welcomed.
Of course not. But a phone call is better than thumbing your way thru conflicts, and FT is a much better way. This is true even when people are living together
But that's what I said. If you read again you'll see that we had our serious conversation on FT yesterday, and that today I'm trying to have our regular daily text convo
And do you really not see the issue? I realize as I type that all of this might be more cultured-influenced than I thought, but are you really ok with your partner hanging around a bunch of people of the opposite sex in their underwear? What if they get weird ideas? Why should any man see my woman changing herself or sleeping? Those are private things. I don't even shake hands with other women ffs.
The comment you responded to is talking to another commenter, kalethegoose who states they got away from an abusive ex. They’re not calling OP’s ex abusive
This is who he is. He waited till you were financially connected to him to show you. I'm sorry. Please talk to a lawyer and make sure you are protected.
ok ask her out and see what she says lol
I have, but it always comes back to “the liberals”. Anytime I ask, she gets riled up and raises her voice (imitating one of her favorite talk show hosts), and honestly that’s when it becomes in one ear out the other.
For example, in Operation Iraqi Freedom/Enduring Freedom, service members were being discharged for refusing to go to war. I agree with that, so did. she (I’m a US vet and was enlisted at that time). Service members who refused the vaccine have been fighting a lawsuit to not get discharged (I think they should be discharged but I digress).
She actually said, and I quote “The liberals want them to be discharged so they can have a Marxist takeover”. I’m not sure where I can go with that.
Do not fuck around with someone (even jokingly) accusing you of rape. Even with undeniable proof of your innocence, your life WILL be ruined by the accusation alone.
Save all evidence of your conversations about the alleged “rape” and NEVER TOUCH THAT WOMAN AGAIN.
The rest of your post only reinforces the fact that you need to terminate this relationship IMMEDIATELY.
Honestly only the last one is a red flag to me.
I hope your husband is just giving you that option if you choose to and not passive aggressively demanding it.
Like these folks say, you both need major therapy.
She’s not interested in you mate. If she was she would be asking you out for date. Not telling you that she’s going on a date with someone else. Abundance mentality bro. The door on this one closed long time ago
If the account is in your name, sell off “Their Share” and hand them a check. Or even better. Give them the money that they loaned you plus some interest and let them know that you are paying them back in full, additionally reimbursing them for your schooling so they can't hold it over your head, if you'd like.
If anything, you did all the work and built yourself up. If they aren't proud of your achievement, and only care about the money, tell them to invest it themselves.
We're Jewish. We're not exactly Orthodox (and I'm admittedly much more observant than she is), but in Judaism, we tend to marry quick. The idea is that you really get to know the other person with marriage, not before. Also consider that things like premarital sex and cohabitation are a no-no.
By the way, I'm obviously the one who proposed, but it was solicited and welcomed.
Of course not. But a phone call is better than thumbing your way thru conflicts, and FT is a much better way. This is true even when people are living together
But that's what I said. If you read again you'll see that we had our serious conversation on FT yesterday, and that today I'm trying to have our regular daily text convo
And do you really not see the issue? I realize as I type that all of this might be more cultured-influenced than I thought, but are you really ok with your partner hanging around a bunch of people of the opposite sex in their underwear? What if they get weird ideas? Why should any man see my woman changing herself or sleeping? Those are private things. I don't even shake hands with other women ffs.
The comment you responded to is talking to another commenter, kalethegoose who states they got away from an abusive ex. They’re not calling OP’s ex abusive
Do you have a link to the other post?
With all due respect that sort of response tends to come about due to trauma or manipulation. Does she have a bad past or is her job especially bad?
This is who he is. He waited till you were financially connected to him to show you. I'm sorry. Please talk to a lawyer and make sure you are protected.