Wait. He wants sex? But refuses to put in any effort? Sex is a major part of any intimate relationship. And instead of investing into you, he invested in some fake scam cam girls? That’s insane to me.
Granted, Poly with 3 partners and thus my perspective might be heavily different, but it boggles my mind someone wouldn’t want someone who would give them that love and time with some fucking effort.
That is very sad. My sister who has this disorder, every single boyfriend she has ever had thought she was the sweetest most loving, caring wonderful woman. Everyone that meets her thinks she’s the greatest. She is also excellent at pulling the wool over the eyes of counselors and is a fantastic con artist. Oh all those men she dated in the past that thought she was the sweetest most caring woman they ever had? The end game with them is brutal punishment, robbing them blind, beating on them, or framing them to get restraining orders, destroying their reputation, etc. Not because it has to be done, but because she enjoys ruining people, especially ex boyfriends. I guess I am sharing this because there was a point in time, a few of her boyfriends were warned, but said phrases similar to what OP said, and insisted on learning the naked harsh way.
Jesus Christ you're fucking dense. You can't seduce someone into doing something they don't like. OPs partner has said this repeatedly for YEARS. Stop.
I would just tell him, I don’t think your long time gf would like us flirting. Tell him you have no SIDE CHICK ENERGY and that’s that. Don’t feel bad for him, feel bad for his girlfriend who has no idea she’s dating a cheating loser.
How do you know if he deletes his text messages? Are you watching him as he uses his phone or going through it? If so, then maybe this isn’t the right situation for you, because that’s not normal.
It made me so upset. Like I warned him that hey, my family is what they consider white trash but we're all very deeply supportive of each other and for the most part, we're all good people. But he sat there asking very passive aggressive questions and making it seem like my family was strange for not having a formal funeral service. And then attempted to argue with me when I told him that it's not uncommon, as someone who worked in a funeral home. He also spent dinner poking fun out how I wasn't taught proper etiquette and it shows.
I know it's crazy but I still just might sit him down and talk to him about the way he's been treating me. I haven't explicitly told him that some of the things he says hurts. Though I have explained that when he teases me, that sometimes I can't help but feel he means every word. I feel like if he brushes me off (or reacts badly in any sort of way) I'll feel like I have more confirmation that I'm not being overly sensitive and he's genuinely treated me bad.
Really look forward to seeing your update and hope you will not have to experience this Christmas alone
Tell him.
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Wait. He wants sex? But refuses to put in any effort? Sex is a major part of any intimate relationship. And instead of investing into you, he invested in some fake scam cam girls? That’s insane to me.
Granted, Poly with 3 partners and thus my perspective might be heavily different, but it boggles my mind someone wouldn’t want someone who would give them that love and time with some fucking effort.
Asking for a friend vibes
You should dump him.
He is the one on fire. You think anyone chooses to have obsessive delusions?
That is very sad. My sister who has this disorder, every single boyfriend she has ever had thought she was the sweetest most loving, caring wonderful woman. Everyone that meets her thinks she’s the greatest. She is also excellent at pulling the wool over the eyes of counselors and is a fantastic con artist. Oh all those men she dated in the past that thought she was the sweetest most caring woman they ever had? The end game with them is brutal punishment, robbing them blind, beating on them, or framing them to get restraining orders, destroying their reputation, etc. Not because it has to be done, but because she enjoys ruining people, especially ex boyfriends. I guess I am sharing this because there was a point in time, a few of her boyfriends were warned, but said phrases similar to what OP said, and insisted on learning the naked harsh way.
I'm started tearing up reading this
So run.
Do not look back.
And find someone who will treat you with the kindness, love and respect that you deserve.
Jesus Christ you're fucking dense. You can't seduce someone into doing something they don't like. OPs partner has said this repeatedly for YEARS. Stop.
I would just tell him, I don’t think your long time gf would like us flirting. Tell him you have no SIDE CHICK ENERGY and that’s that. Don’t feel bad for him, feel bad for his girlfriend who has no idea she’s dating a cheating loser.
How do you know if he deletes his text messages? Are you watching him as he uses his phone or going through it? If so, then maybe this isn’t the right situation for you, because that’s not normal.
It made me so upset. Like I warned him that hey, my family is what they consider white trash but we're all very deeply supportive of each other and for the most part, we're all good people. But he sat there asking very passive aggressive questions and making it seem like my family was strange for not having a formal funeral service. And then attempted to argue with me when I told him that it's not uncommon, as someone who worked in a funeral home. He also spent dinner poking fun out how I wasn't taught proper etiquette and it shows.
I know it's crazy but I still just might sit him down and talk to him about the way he's been treating me. I haven't explicitly told him that some of the things he says hurts. Though I have explained that when he teases me, that sometimes I can't help but feel he means every word. I feel like if he brushes me off (or reacts badly in any sort of way) I'll feel like I have more confirmation that I'm not being overly sensitive and he's genuinely treated me bad.
Well that’s good I guess, but still kind of the bare minimum. It is extremely extremely concerning to me that he proposed after only one month
He is doing sheisty shit and thinks that if he is you must be also.