I was always respectful and kind aside from leaving when she tried to fight and reminding her I didn't want an actual relationship when I felt her getting too close, but even then it wasn't “fuck you,” it was “remember.” Like I said, my intention was never to lead her on. We had fun hanging out, which was the reason I liked hanging out with her. I just couldn't ever see myself with her long-term.
I had a therapy session today and brought it up, and my therapist mentioned attachment styles and that she sounded like a “chaser” which is someone who grows more attached the more emotionally unavailable the other person is. Usually a result of their upbringing and the type of love they received from their parents, and having to become independent at a young age which fits. Because of that, I don't know that she would have loved me if I had reciprocated the love she had for me. Maybe, but if that actually was what was going on psychologically, maybe not.
You lash out at your boyfriend. Wait until later that night to send an apology via TEXT. If you’re going to wait to apologize, at least have the maturity to TALK to him and not do it over text. Then you text him again in the middle of the night. Then you’re upset because he’s not calling you for your “4 hour phone calls.” Here’s your advice. Act like an adult. Stress is a part of life – learn to deal with it. When you screw up, apologize in a timely fashion, preferably in person, or at least via phone conversation. Don’t text people in the middle of the night.
I had an ex that pulled this crap, turned out she was cheating on me
It’s not though. STDs because transmitted a lot of ways. I also wouldn’t want to start a relationship on these terms which is a personal boundary.
I was always respectful and kind aside from leaving when she tried to fight and reminding her I didn't want an actual relationship when I felt her getting too close, but even then it wasn't “fuck you,” it was “remember.” Like I said, my intention was never to lead her on. We had fun hanging out, which was the reason I liked hanging out with her. I just couldn't ever see myself with her long-term.
I had a therapy session today and brought it up, and my therapist mentioned attachment styles and that she sounded like a “chaser” which is someone who grows more attached the more emotionally unavailable the other person is. Usually a result of their upbringing and the type of love they received from their parents, and having to become independent at a young age which fits. Because of that, I don't know that she would have loved me if I had reciprocated the love she had for me. Maybe, but if that actually was what was going on psychologically, maybe not.
Yes, it seems as if she’s more into women
You lash out at your boyfriend. Wait until later that night to send an apology via TEXT. If you’re going to wait to apologize, at least have the maturity to TALK to him and not do it over text. Then you text him again in the middle of the night. Then you’re upset because he’s not calling you for your “4 hour phone calls.” Here’s your advice. Act like an adult. Stress is a part of life – learn to deal with it. When you screw up, apologize in a timely fashion, preferably in person, or at least via phone conversation. Don’t text people in the middle of the night.