If your work load didn't change due to her staying home why is it a big deal for you to still do the chores you were doing before?
Exactly. He seems to think that her work load has lessened, when in actuality she went from working 9-5 to working 24/7. You don't clock out of parenting.
You need to either decide that the love he has shown you over the past 12 beautiful years is enough to convince you, he didn't settle for you. He fell in love with you. Slower than you fell in love with him but nonetheless.
Or if it's too much for you then you need to move on. You can't exist in limbo forever.
My outside take is that he does love you, even if he didn't the moment you met like you did. He had prior feelings for your friend who is now trying to tear apart your lives out of feelings of jealousy.
I think you'll be a lot happier if you learn to let it go and accept your husband does love you. I'm sure he has apologized already, and in some ways you might owe him one. You can't hold this over his head forever and stay miserable and married. He might already be thinking of leaving after a year of this. Couples therapy might help but I think once you decide one way or the other you'll feel a lot better.
Why would you feel left out? He's the reason you're able to save money anyway. If you cant realize that then you're always gonna feel “left out”
Do you pay half the check on dates with him so you don't feel left out?
The logic here is hilarious, stop letting your feelings effect your thinking and enjoy your life and family.
If your work load didn't change due to her staying home why is it a big deal for you to still do the chores you were doing before?
Exactly. He seems to think that her work load has lessened, when in actuality she went from working 9-5 to working 24/7. You don't clock out of parenting.
Yeah .. he is only trying to manipulate you. he did this all to himself
That was a dick move. Hopefully they learned a lesson.
You need to either decide that the love he has shown you over the past 12 beautiful years is enough to convince you, he didn't settle for you. He fell in love with you. Slower than you fell in love with him but nonetheless.
Or if it's too much for you then you need to move on. You can't exist in limbo forever.
My outside take is that he does love you, even if he didn't the moment you met like you did. He had prior feelings for your friend who is now trying to tear apart your lives out of feelings of jealousy.
I think you'll be a lot happier if you learn to let it go and accept your husband does love you. I'm sure he has apologized already, and in some ways you might owe him one. You can't hold this over his head forever and stay miserable and married. He might already be thinking of leaving after a year of this. Couples therapy might help but I think once you decide one way or the other you'll feel a lot better.
no
Not sustainable. I’d force him to therapy for much better communication. Without it, neither of you are gonna be happy. Nobody wins.
Your husband is being passive aggressive. You guys need counseling ASAP
Bring up the divorce at a cake testing place
You LEAVE. WTF do you think?