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About 15k & he’s not been clear on what it was for. Im checking in on it because he told me that he wouldn’t be ready to go get a preapproval letter for a house until this debt is paid off. I’m expecting and wanting to close on a house sooner than later. I suspect, that he’s more so embarrassed about his credit and not wanting to face the fact that he may not qualify for the loan at all so he’s using this debt payoff as a way to buy more time to boost his credit score. That’s just a guess for me because 15 K is not really a lot of debt. I have house debt, so way more by far & im not scared, but I also have high credit & income.
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The only reason that somebody would behave that badly it’s because they have something to hide. In the way that he called her and then threw you under the bus in front of her gave her info she needed to address the conversation. There’s something going on.
If he always blames you for his shit then gaslights when you call him out then he either needs to see a therapist to learn to control his anger issues or you need to break up because he may eventually turn violent towards you instead of just abusing you with words.
Be careful and stay safe. Don’t stay with an abuser (verbal or physical) just because you don’t want to be alone.
Good point. It is not about the details but the truth about the extent of their relationship. Especially when we agreed to work on this (3 months ago). It would help with making a decision. I know there is probably enough to make a decision already but…I guess I am on the fence still (which is sad).
Quite possible, I think I used to be a little like him so I just spoke from my own lack of awareness at my lack of friends and what I was putting on my partner at the time.
That is a really good and practical idea, thanks or sharing! He'll have a little more time to say all the things he REALLY needs to say and there's an end in sight for me. I will try that.
No lol ew
That's why you need to find a therapist who specializes in working with adult victims of child abuse.
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About 15k & he’s not been clear on what it was for. Im checking in on it because he told me that he wouldn’t be ready to go get a preapproval letter for a house until this debt is paid off. I’m expecting and wanting to close on a house sooner than later. I suspect, that he’s more so embarrassed about his credit and not wanting to face the fact that he may not qualify for the loan at all so he’s using this debt payoff as a way to buy more time to boost his credit score. That’s just a guess for me because 15 K is not really a lot of debt. I have house debt, so way more by far & im not scared, but I also have high credit & income.
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The only reason that somebody would behave that badly it’s because they have something to hide. In the way that he called her and then threw you under the bus in front of her gave her info she needed to address the conversation. There’s something going on.
First, it's not on you to carry the conversation.
But also, 15 minutes every day would be more than enough for me.
I'm assuming this is someone you're actually dating and not someone you only know live!.
Honestly what I did is worse. He threw a glass at me in the past but I think cheating is way worse. I can't with the guilt.
Maybe she lost her phone. Or got sick. Or got tired of the app. Or her BF found her account
The son's father is the sister's ex-boyfriend, the ex-friend said so in the post she made a few hours ago
If he always blames you for his shit then gaslights when you call him out then he either needs to see a therapist to learn to control his anger issues or you need to break up because he may eventually turn violent towards you instead of just abusing you with words.
Be careful and stay safe. Don’t stay with an abuser (verbal or physical) just because you don’t want to be alone.
Good point. It is not about the details but the truth about the extent of their relationship. Especially when we agreed to work on this (3 months ago). It would help with making a decision. I know there is probably enough to make a decision already but…I guess I am on the fence still (which is sad).
Quite possible, I think I used to be a little like him so I just spoke from my own lack of awareness at my lack of friends and what I was putting on my partner at the time.
That is a really good and practical idea, thanks or sharing! He'll have a little more time to say all the things he REALLY needs to say and there's an end in sight for me. I will try that.
My dad is like that lmfao he never says sorry and any opinion other than his is wrong and arguing.