You perfectly summarised my thoughts exactly. I detest this whole “the one” business. No one is perfect, if you've found someone you love and share enough in common with to be happy, why even risk that for something else that isn't even guaranteed to be as good.
So if I understand, you’d be moving into his home and paying him rent. You’d save 400 and he’d have more money to pay off debt? So financially, sounds sensible, you can set up savings if you’re worried with the money you won’t spend on rent.
So the question seems to actually be do you want to live together, any ti sounds like you’re not actually ready. So maybe just tell him that.
I used to have a FWB that I also went on the occasional date with (mostly just to movies we both wanted to see or to grab dinner). We're getting married in June. ?
Sit her down and have a conversation. Tell her that her behavior is confusing you, and you just want clarification so that you're both on the same page. Always remember that the F stands for friends, so you should be able to have these kinds of talks.
It's really hard to make a call based on this post. I feel that there has to be some body language or secondary motivations or tone issues or somrtnong that led to this. Is he a jerk? Was he overestimulated at the time? Have you been doing drugs or drinking? Did you ask in a weird way? Idk.
Keep your eyes on this. If it continues to develop bail before, you're stuck with a prick for years.
Some people can take a “not now” as a “no”. But each answer has a weight to it. I’ve understood that I was in the mood and my significant other wasn’t, and realistically we had no time or energy, but a flat out no with not explanation can hurt someone’s pride a bit.
Also I get where you’re coming from, just asking to have sec in some scenarios makes me grossed out even as a guy, like come on put in some work for it or find a better way of initiating.
So you slept with her the past 2 nights? Or different people?
You perfectly summarised my thoughts exactly. I detest this whole “the one” business. No one is perfect, if you've found someone you love and share enough in common with to be happy, why even risk that for something else that isn't even guaranteed to be as good.
I should
But the mature thing would have been to talk about this.
So if I understand, you’d be moving into his home and paying him rent. You’d save 400 and he’d have more money to pay off debt? So financially, sounds sensible, you can set up savings if you’re worried with the money you won’t spend on rent.
So the question seems to actually be do you want to live together, any ti sounds like you’re not actually ready. So maybe just tell him that.
I used to have a FWB that I also went on the occasional date with (mostly just to movies we both wanted to see or to grab dinner). We're getting married in June. ?
Sit her down and have a conversation. Tell her that her behavior is confusing you, and you just want clarification so that you're both on the same page. Always remember that the F stands for friends, so you should be able to have these kinds of talks.
It’s very strange how he casually just admits to it. Like he was the one who brought it up. He could of just kept hiding it.
Therapy.
You expect toxic relation, emotionally crave for the thrill that comes with changes, and instabilty.
Leaving him is definitely good thing for him, as for you, unless you deal with your issue you won't be happy with anyone else either.
It's really hard to make a call based on this post. I feel that there has to be some body language or secondary motivations or tone issues or somrtnong that led to this. Is he a jerk? Was he overestimulated at the time? Have you been doing drugs or drinking? Did you ask in a weird way? Idk.
Keep your eyes on this. If it continues to develop bail before, you're stuck with a prick for years.
So you’ve never met in person? You guys are larp-ing a relationship and she is losing interest. Focus on meeting people you can actually see irl.
Switch places with your sister. Then try to get your parents back together.
Some people can take a “not now” as a “no”. But each answer has a weight to it. I’ve understood that I was in the mood and my significant other wasn’t, and realistically we had no time or energy, but a flat out no with not explanation can hurt someone’s pride a bit.
Also I get where you’re coming from, just asking to have sec in some scenarios makes me grossed out even as a guy, like come on put in some work for it or find a better way of initiating.