Cleaning lube out of a toy(off of a toy) is a lot easier than cleaning cum out of the crevices or shit off of them. Especially after the orgasm. Condom in trash, a light rinse with some appropriate soap, all is good.
I doubt these two people were the only ones he did something to. I would consider reporting it or letting the community know in some way that he is not safe to be around. Anonymously if your husband prefers. Being drunk isn't an excuse
I want my own biological kids which is why I said I don’t want them
if you don’t want the mothering options that exist to you don’t want to be a mother.
the mental gymnastics only exist to make you feel bad. you are likely nursing that anguish because if you feel guilty then you can focus on that instead of processing the gross violation from your partner.
These are basic things everyone should respct as a baseline, not a boundary you should have ti enforce.
If he cheated once, there’s a decent chance he will again. Cheating is an issue with the cheater that often isn’t fixed by having more rules or boundaries. Best advice I can give is not to move in together, because he will 1. probably cheat again, and 2. probably do more things that are unacceptable, since you have to enforce common sense.
It can literally be from anywhere…stuck to one of your shoes from outside, hiding in something you bought, fell out of a visitors pocket (yes we know none of your friends have pierced ears but people have things in their pockets for all kinds of reasons), hugged someone goodbye and their earring got caught in your hair…I think you need to let the earring go at this point.
Your experience and how you might perceive it has nothing to do with minimizing other people's experiences. It's not and shouldn't be a competition. I know you don't want to hear that, but your consent is questionable since you were very drunk. So obviously drunk you were refused entrance into the club. If someone else noticed how drunk you were, don't you think your roommate didn't? The way he behaved afterwards makes me think he saw your state that night and took advantage of it. Considering he tried to repeatedly kiss you against your will weeks after that night is so telling. What about those kisses? Do you think they fall under the category of sexual assault? Or do you think that calling those occurrences sexual assaults would be minimizing other people's experiences that were much worse? You are so harsh with yourself. Probably not ready to call things by their name. Which is understandable from a psychological point of view. I do hope you're going to be at a better place in that regard when you'll be talking to a counselor (in a month) so you could be completely honest there. You'll need to do it if you want to get help there.
You’re willing to own up to what you did and make things right??? The first step to that is admitting you suck. Where were your thoughts and feelings for your GF when you were screwing the side chick? You suck.
You think it was a mistake??? You suck.
You cheated. You suck.
You Are garbage and your GF deserves better. If you have any respect for her (which we know you don’t) apologize, tell her the truth and online by her decision.
Go to therapy to process this. Absolutely do not contact your ex. You need to process the series of decisions you made that lead you here so you never do them again.
Put the money away, and continue to work. Maybe you don't have to work full time, but continue to work.
could be used for masturbation with a toy.
Cleaning lube out of a toy(off of a toy) is a lot easier than cleaning cum out of the crevices or shit off of them. Especially after the orgasm. Condom in trash, a light rinse with some appropriate soap, all is good.
I doubt these two people were the only ones he did something to. I would consider reporting it or letting the community know in some way that he is not safe to be around. Anonymously if your husband prefers. Being drunk isn't an excuse
I want my own biological kids which is why I said I don’t want them
if you don’t want the mothering options that exist to you don’t want to be a mother.
the mental gymnastics only exist to make you feel bad. you are likely nursing that anguish because if you feel guilty then you can focus on that instead of processing the gross violation from your partner.
I gotta tell you. It might not be the looks. Please don't refer to women as females.
These are basic things everyone should respct as a baseline, not a boundary you should have ti enforce.
If he cheated once, there’s a decent chance he will again. Cheating is an issue with the cheater that often isn’t fixed by having more rules or boundaries. Best advice I can give is not to move in together, because he will 1. probably cheat again, and 2. probably do more things that are unacceptable, since you have to enforce common sense.
It can literally be from anywhere…stuck to one of your shoes from outside, hiding in something you bought, fell out of a visitors pocket (yes we know none of your friends have pierced ears but people have things in their pockets for all kinds of reasons), hugged someone goodbye and their earring got caught in your hair…I think you need to let the earring go at this point.
Vasectomies can sometimes be reversed. Doctors recommend to never have a vasectomy expecting that you can necessarily reverse it successfully.
You sure he”s not gay:(
I know but i love her and she reassures me she loves me, just her actions confise me
Your experience and how you might perceive it has nothing to do with minimizing other people's experiences. It's not and shouldn't be a competition. I know you don't want to hear that, but your consent is questionable since you were very drunk. So obviously drunk you were refused entrance into the club. If someone else noticed how drunk you were, don't you think your roommate didn't? The way he behaved afterwards makes me think he saw your state that night and took advantage of it. Considering he tried to repeatedly kiss you against your will weeks after that night is so telling. What about those kisses? Do you think they fall under the category of sexual assault? Or do you think that calling those occurrences sexual assaults would be minimizing other people's experiences that were much worse? You are so harsh with yourself. Probably not ready to call things by their name. Which is understandable from a psychological point of view. I do hope you're going to be at a better place in that regard when you'll be talking to a counselor (in a month) so you could be completely honest there. You'll need to do it if you want to get help there.
You’re willing to own up to what you did and make things right??? The first step to that is admitting you suck. Where were your thoughts and feelings for your GF when you were screwing the side chick? You suck.
You think it was a mistake??? You suck.
You cheated. You suck.
You Are garbage and your GF deserves better. If you have any respect for her (which we know you don’t) apologize, tell her the truth and online by her decision.
Go to therapy to process this. Absolutely do not contact your ex. You need to process the series of decisions you made that lead you here so you never do them again.
Why people stay in relationships like this is beyond me. Time to go.
Tell him it’s unattractive and you want him to advocate for his freedom or move out
My brother is Christ an entire human being came out of you in what way are you not a victim?