that could become a problem because on-line porn can rewire a man’s person's brain & cause him them to become dependent on that much visual stimulation to perform & he they could have problems keeping an erection staying aroused or reaching orgasm during actual sex w/ a woman person as a result
This isn't a male-specific issue. The problem applies to men and women alike, and whilst a woman doesn't get the problem of losing erection, they do get the problem of being dry/tightening up which then makes sex painful or uncomfortable for her (and possibly the partner).
Just fixing what you said so that other people who read your comment don't spread the misconception that it's something that is only a problem for men.
I’m guessing the superficial stuff isn’t the real issue. Our perceptions of how attractive our partner are can change based on our feelings about them. I would have a long serious talk with her about how your marriage is going in general. Try couples counseling if it doesn’t feel like you guys are able to dig into things on your own.
My husband gained about 30lbs after a back injury. I sat him down and talked to him that I was concerned about his weight gain. I want him to be healthy and happy and have a long life with me. A month or so after we talked, he started tracking his calories and moving more, and lost the weight slowly over a year or so.
But I love him. So he never stopped looking good to me. It didn’t affect my desire for him. I would never have framed the discussion in terms of his attractiveness, in fact I reassured him that I was still attracted! I know that with extreme weight gain, attraction can change, but surely with a profound love the attraction will stay in spite of some extra pounds?
That’s why I think there’s something else, something deeper going on
My wife was asking me if she could back out of doing a thing we were planning and I texted back “same as always, whatever makes you happiest” which I truly meant at face value: if it makes you happy the answer is always yes.
I was astounded to find her in tears later because her past relationships (and the fact that it was text) made her assume I was implying she only ever thought about herself.
I had to learn to be much more clear in my word choice.
It blows my mind that people still do this when never having an open relationship. Some fantasies need to stay fantasies. I've never met a monogamous couple whose relationship survives having a 3some. One or both of yall will end up with hurt feelings.
Do. Not. Do. It. Tell her you've changed your mind.
No, he might say that, but he means he doesn't trust you.
He's basically saying that if one of them were to try it on with you, you'd be completely powerless to resist their unwanted advances. He's denying your bodily autonomy.
There's no such thing is an ugly person…everyone is beautiful in their own way. But what I do find ugly is your boyfriend personality to think that looks are the only thing that matters.
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that could become a problem because on-line porn can rewire a man’s person's brain & cause him them to become dependent on that much visual stimulation to perform & he they could have problems keeping an erection staying aroused or reaching orgasm during actual sex w/ a woman person as a result
This isn't a male-specific issue. The problem applies to men and women alike, and whilst a woman doesn't get the problem of losing erection, they do get the problem of being dry/tightening up which then makes sex painful or uncomfortable for her (and possibly the partner).
Just fixing what you said so that other people who read your comment don't spread the misconception that it's something that is only a problem for men.
I’m guessing the superficial stuff isn’t the real issue. Our perceptions of how attractive our partner are can change based on our feelings about them. I would have a long serious talk with her about how your marriage is going in general. Try couples counseling if it doesn’t feel like you guys are able to dig into things on your own.
My husband gained about 30lbs after a back injury. I sat him down and talked to him that I was concerned about his weight gain. I want him to be healthy and happy and have a long life with me. A month or so after we talked, he started tracking his calories and moving more, and lost the weight slowly over a year or so.
But I love him. So he never stopped looking good to me. It didn’t affect my desire for him. I would never have framed the discussion in terms of his attractiveness, in fact I reassured him that I was still attracted! I know that with extreme weight gain, attraction can change, but surely with a profound love the attraction will stay in spite of some extra pounds?
That’s why I think there’s something else, something deeper going on
My wife was asking me if she could back out of doing a thing we were planning and I texted back “same as always, whatever makes you happiest” which I truly meant at face value: if it makes you happy the answer is always yes.
I was astounded to find her in tears later because her past relationships (and the fact that it was text) made her assume I was implying she only ever thought about herself.
I had to learn to be much more clear in my word choice.
You should not need convincing to be happy for a gift
It blows my mind that people still do this when never having an open relationship. Some fantasies need to stay fantasies. I've never met a monogamous couple whose relationship survives having a 3some. One or both of yall will end up with hurt feelings.
Do. Not. Do. It. Tell her you've changed your mind.
What?
So you are watching gay porn in class, got into trouble for it, and noe you are complaining everyone is homophobic because if it?
No, he might say that, but he means he doesn't trust you.
He's basically saying that if one of them were to try it on with you, you'd be completely powerless to resist their unwanted advances. He's denying your bodily autonomy.
There's no such thing is an ugly person…everyone is beautiful in their own way. But what I do find ugly is your boyfriend personality to think that looks are the only thing that matters.