It didn't sound like there would be much hope in you initial question but here it sounds like you are so caring and loving with each other so I wanted to reply.
Do you know what his thoughts about this is? Some kinks are impossible to change other requires work but can be changed. It is concerning if he can't have sex without this kink. It's one thing to have something special that you can indulge in occasionally and something else if it's the only thing that makes it work for him. Has he tried anything to change this?
You know the pain, and you also know it’s not right to ghost someone for 6 weeks just because of your feelings you can’t escape. The only reasoning for it was that she was using him, and because that is the case she’s also making an innocent bystander suffer needlessly from not taking accountability for the situation in the first place before dating someone.
I would be questioning the motives of your other friends too. Real friends respect each others boundaries, they don’t gaslight you when someone has wronged you and blame you for taking it the wrong way. Without respect and trust there is no foundation for a healthy relationship.
Yeah I'm not sure if I should try talking to him about it or if I should just break up with him.
Yea… start talking to other girls be put her on the last to respond to list.
It didn't sound like there would be much hope in you initial question but here it sounds like you are so caring and loving with each other so I wanted to reply.
Do you know what his thoughts about this is? Some kinks are impossible to change other requires work but can be changed. It is concerning if he can't have sex without this kink. It's one thing to have something special that you can indulge in occasionally and something else if it's the only thing that makes it work for him. Has he tried anything to change this?
Not a sports fan but when you’re 60 will you value having seen the game more than the time spent with your family?
It would be nice if she was sympathetic to your hobby but it’s understandable that she wants you to choose them over the game.
Choose your battles I guess.
Stop responding
You know the pain, and you also know it’s not right to ghost someone for 6 weeks just because of your feelings you can’t escape. The only reasoning for it was that she was using him, and because that is the case she’s also making an innocent bystander suffer needlessly from not taking accountability for the situation in the first place before dating someone.
I read things and then decide if I want to reply.
I would be questioning the motives of your other friends too. Real friends respect each others boundaries, they don’t gaslight you when someone has wronged you and blame you for taking it the wrong way. Without respect and trust there is no foundation for a healthy relationship.