Do you fully know the status of your bf's ex? Is she also seeing someone, or do you think she's regretting the fact that her relationship with your bf failed? Also, what will be the sleeping arrangements for your bf? If he's staying in a guest room, then relax. If you're uncertain, seek out that information.
Only if bf is sleeping in his ex's bed should you dig in your heels, as that is simply a bridge too far. Going forward, sit your bf down, and have a discussion about your boundaries, as well as his. Best to suss this issue out now, so each of you will know with what tolerances with which each of you need to navigate.
Well I mean I’m not attracted to guys I don’t think. Like I wouldn’t kiss a guy ya know not even try it. I’m definitely into girls as far as I know. I get what you mean though about preferences. Thanks
I didn't call her vanilla. I called their sex vanilla vanilla sex. He was telling her that he likes elements of kink (male anal play, pegging etc.) I provided the inside as to why he might want anal play, an opinion on what should be done in terms of communication, especially in terms of boundaries/rules/limits and I told her to do better. Her husband really wanted to explore that part of his sexuality with her and it was not taken very well and I wonder if it has to do with a certain level of distaste in terms of male anal play. Either way OP could do better in terms of communicating with her partner, especially in regards to sex because it's such a intimate and vulnerable setting.
Get. An. Abortion. That's all the advice you need. The only reason he's treating you well is because you are a vessel for his child who he values more than you. You don't believe in abortion? That's fine get one anyway. Under no circumstance should you stay with this person or keep this child.
Yes.
Before she gets too invested in this relationship, have a frank, open and honest discussion with her about this.
She may or may not find this aspect of your character and personality compatible with hers.
Do you fully know the status of your bf's ex? Is she also seeing someone, or do you think she's regretting the fact that her relationship with your bf failed? Also, what will be the sleeping arrangements for your bf? If he's staying in a guest room, then relax. If you're uncertain, seek out that information.
Only if bf is sleeping in his ex's bed should you dig in your heels, as that is simply a bridge too far. Going forward, sit your bf down, and have a discussion about your boundaries, as well as his. Best to suss this issue out now, so each of you will know with what tolerances with which each of you need to navigate.
I wish you well.
It’s an innocent crush. You’re ok.
You don't sound so sure.
Well I mean I’m not attracted to guys I don’t think. Like I wouldn’t kiss a guy ya know not even try it. I’m definitely into girls as far as I know. I get what you mean though about preferences. Thanks
I didn't call her vanilla. I called their sex vanilla vanilla sex. He was telling her that he likes elements of kink (male anal play, pegging etc.) I provided the inside as to why he might want anal play, an opinion on what should be done in terms of communication, especially in terms of boundaries/rules/limits and I told her to do better. Her husband really wanted to explore that part of his sexuality with her and it was not taken very well and I wonder if it has to do with a certain level of distaste in terms of male anal play. Either way OP could do better in terms of communicating with her partner, especially in regards to sex because it's such a intimate and vulnerable setting.
Get. An. Abortion. That's all the advice you need. The only reason he's treating you well is because you are a vessel for his child who he values more than you. You don't believe in abortion? That's fine get one anyway. Under no circumstance should you stay with this person or keep this child.
Divorce incoming in 3…2…1
SAME.
Yep. She’s the work wife.
Don’t.