You can't really know. And you can't really say your life will be better/worse with kids. You'll certainly be poorer. You'll certainly have less time for hobbies, friends, and travel. You will definitely have days you hate being a parent no matter how much you love your kids.
The question is whether all that is out weighed by raising them and getting to know them. No one can tell you. No person, no matter how ready they say they are can really know. And almost no one can definitively say whether their life would have been better with or without kids. It takes too long, has too many diverging choices, and such different experiences that you'd need to online your life multiple times to “know what is right”.
Just think of marrying your wife. You can't really know you'll be happy with her in 5 years yet you signed on the dotted line that you wanted to online with her for the rest of your life. You didn't know and couldn't know how you'd feel about that later. So at the end of the day, having kids is a leap of faith that you'll make it work. There's no going back, but there's no guarantees either. Are you willing to make the promise that you'll try your best as a parent or not?
No need for further advice because you did the right thing. Don't even worry about the guy she cheated with on you because your ex-girlfriend herself is garbage. Move on and find someone else or focus everything on your child. DO NOT TAKE HER BACK, I REPEAT DO NOT GIVE HER A SECOND CHANCE.
Genitalia is not the only way to be intimate. Take him to a specialty store and choose some toys together. Maybe a different pace or change in the bedroom will spice things up. Although you two are young, you have already been together for 9 years. Since he was also on medication, not sure for how long? He may be having residual side effects from it still or he may just be in his head thinking he cannot please you anymore. It may possibly be all mental, so spice stuff up sister! And if that doesn’t work, it may be time he talks to a professional to get to the root of what is causing his slump-if there is one or it may be that just is who he is.
Well he can start by not being so incredibly self absorbed that he keeps making HER reaction to a horrific trauma about himself.
Being someone’s partner doesn’t mean you’re some magical healing potion that can remove all of their traumas with your love. That would be nice but it’s not reality. The reality is OP couldn’t even admit it to herself because it is so painful and she thought she had effectively hidden it in her past and wouldn’t have to confront it at all. Then her wounds were reopened and it’s ugly face made it clear she needs to start her healing or it’ll always be there. As soon as she was ready to start healing she informed him for support.
You should tell your bf. You let it go this time but T will probably think you let him do it and liked it, he will surely try again. Let your bf deal with it the way he seems it's more appropriate for him.
If T doest it again and someone tells your bf and it comes out it wasn't the first time it will look sus on your part.
Don't keep any secrets. It's best to be open and more so if you feel uncomfortable with it.
Well, I’m a straight woman, so no. I’m not jealous you’re banging her. I feel bad for her that she’s banging you when she could do a lot better.
Holy crap how can you be such a doormat?
You let her do what she wants and she is keeping in touch with her exes and fling prospects.
Youndont want to on-line under one roof with a hoe, she is lying to you all the time.
Don't move in with her and breakup
You can't really know. And you can't really say your life will be better/worse with kids. You'll certainly be poorer. You'll certainly have less time for hobbies, friends, and travel. You will definitely have days you hate being a parent no matter how much you love your kids.
The question is whether all that is out weighed by raising them and getting to know them. No one can tell you. No person, no matter how ready they say they are can really know. And almost no one can definitively say whether their life would have been better with or without kids. It takes too long, has too many diverging choices, and such different experiences that you'd need to online your life multiple times to “know what is right”.
Just think of marrying your wife. You can't really know you'll be happy with her in 5 years yet you signed on the dotted line that you wanted to online with her for the rest of your life. You didn't know and couldn't know how you'd feel about that later. So at the end of the day, having kids is a leap of faith that you'll make it work. There's no going back, but there's no guarantees either. Are you willing to make the promise that you'll try your best as a parent or not?
You are correct.
No need for further advice because you did the right thing. Don't even worry about the guy she cheated with on you because your ex-girlfriend herself is garbage. Move on and find someone else or focus everything on your child. DO NOT TAKE HER BACK, I REPEAT DO NOT GIVE HER A SECOND CHANCE.
Genitalia is not the only way to be intimate. Take him to a specialty store and choose some toys together. Maybe a different pace or change in the bedroom will spice things up. Although you two are young, you have already been together for 9 years. Since he was also on medication, not sure for how long? He may be having residual side effects from it still or he may just be in his head thinking he cannot please you anymore. It may possibly be all mental, so spice stuff up sister! And if that doesn’t work, it may be time he talks to a professional to get to the root of what is causing his slump-if there is one or it may be that just is who he is.
Well he can start by not being so incredibly self absorbed that he keeps making HER reaction to a horrific trauma about himself.
Being someone’s partner doesn’t mean you’re some magical healing potion that can remove all of their traumas with your love. That would be nice but it’s not reality. The reality is OP couldn’t even admit it to herself because it is so painful and she thought she had effectively hidden it in her past and wouldn’t have to confront it at all. Then her wounds were reopened and it’s ugly face made it clear she needs to start her healing or it’ll always be there. As soon as she was ready to start healing she informed him for support.
You should tell your bf. You let it go this time but T will probably think you let him do it and liked it, he will surely try again. Let your bf deal with it the way he seems it's more appropriate for him.
If T doest it again and someone tells your bf and it comes out it wasn't the first time it will look sus on your part.
Don't keep any secrets. It's best to be open and more so if you feel uncomfortable with it.