I think that you got the feels and now he’s trying to distance because he was firm on the ‘don’t want to jeopardize friendship with brother’ stance stated from the beginning. Either you can continue this, and get your feelings completely confused/conflicted/caught up, or just move on.
Exactly. His dad was also too late with his “advice”, if he didn’t want his child (OP) to go through the same thing he did then maybe he should’ve given the advice of not getting a girl pregnant out of wedlock, wtf. OP, man up and take responsibility! Either commit to coparenting or leave and pay child support.
She doesn't sound mentally healthy at all to be in a relationship with. Does she have a therapist?
I'd suggest couples counseling so you can force the discussion and confront this with a professional. Either she's sick and needs help or she's manipulative and you need to gtfo.
I asked because I honestly stayed with someone who cheated with an ex as well and convinced myself I could move past it. I definitely couldn’t, and he wasn’t worth staying with.
What he did is not really acceptable and he obviously knows it. However, check out the literally thousands of posts on here of people who found out their partner was cheating in this way. The next stuff is about whether you really want to keep him as this place wants you to ditch him, it always does. One of your considerations has then got to be not doing something that makes him ditch you! If he really is insecure then denying him access will probably make things worse. Therapy is a better bet. For my relationships I find secrets are a bad thing so I always go for full disclosure from the start (when the relationship is stable) . Could you not go for open access both ways right from now if there is nothing to hide? I get the bit about him reading stuff that friends said in confidence but if I do this with my close friends then the one exception is that I assume their partner will know. If I don't want that I will tell them so and assume they would instantly delete it but also recognise their right to not compromise their relationship for me!
Break up with him and go fully no contact immediately after. Block him if you need to make sure you won’t reply to him, watch his stories, like his posts, etc. The sudden cut off of all contact will make him feel the weight of his actions.
Can someone explain to me what that means? I'm stupid (and have autism)
Your girlfriend isn’t interested in you anymore. This can’t be fixed.
She’s low key hoping you’ll just dump her. Which you should, if you want to keep your dignity.
Thanks for the help
GIRL.
DUMP HIM.
If you want a butt then do squats and deadlifts, you're 18 and your body hasn't even finished developing.
He sounds like an asshole, and there's a whole field of red flags.
You deserve better.
Maybe try some therapy, too, too many of us women have body image issues inflicted upon us by family and loved ones.
I think that you got the feels and now he’s trying to distance because he was firm on the ‘don’t want to jeopardize friendship with brother’ stance stated from the beginning. Either you can continue this, and get your feelings completely confused/conflicted/caught up, or just move on.
Classy. You should follow the instructions on the packaging.
Exactly. His dad was also too late with his “advice”, if he didn’t want his child (OP) to go through the same thing he did then maybe he should’ve given the advice of not getting a girl pregnant out of wedlock, wtf. OP, man up and take responsibility! Either commit to coparenting or leave and pay child support.
She doesn't sound mentally healthy at all to be in a relationship with. Does she have a therapist?
I'd suggest couples counseling so you can force the discussion and confront this with a professional. Either she's sick and needs help or she's manipulative and you need to gtfo.
I asked because I honestly stayed with someone who cheated with an ex as well and convinced myself I could move past it. I definitely couldn’t, and he wasn’t worth staying with.
What he did is not really acceptable and he obviously knows it. However, check out the literally thousands of posts on here of people who found out their partner was cheating in this way. The next stuff is about whether you really want to keep him as this place wants you to ditch him, it always does. One of your considerations has then got to be not doing something that makes him ditch you! If he really is insecure then denying him access will probably make things worse. Therapy is a better bet. For my relationships I find secrets are a bad thing so I always go for full disclosure from the start (when the relationship is stable) . Could you not go for open access both ways right from now if there is nothing to hide? I get the bit about him reading stuff that friends said in confidence but if I do this with my close friends then the one exception is that I assume their partner will know. If I don't want that I will tell them so and assume they would instantly delete it but also recognise their right to not compromise their relationship for me!
Break up with him and go fully no contact immediately after. Block him if you need to make sure you won’t reply to him, watch his stories, like his posts, etc. The sudden cut off of all contact will make him feel the weight of his actions.
Exactly, I will give you her number so you can help her