Well communication (like you said) is what laid a solid foundation to him understanding this communication you have with your ex. She lacks communication. She knows it and always admits it. I have never been the overly jealous type. I don’t ever ask for her phone. This is just one of those situations where I had this gut feeling, the moment presented itself, and it just happened.
She knows I’m not the jealous type. All I ask for is respect and loyalty.
You haven't written how long you've been with him I think. And how long he was with his ex girlfriend.
I assume that the liked each other since they were just incompatible with something (I assume what they wanted for the future, sex needs ect).
I wouldn't necessarily think that he's still hung up on her because he opened the door for her and not you. I might just be a response in relation to the trauma, that he felt like he needed a person who either knew something related to the trauma or that knew him better. And she might know him better than you, if they were together for a long time and your relationship is fairly new. That doesn't mean she'll always know him better.
You say you and him have been talking about the trauma for the past 3 weeks so I assume he wants you to be his person since it's you he's talking to and opening up to. I think that it's a good idea next time you talk about his break down to bring up in a non confrontational way what made him want to be with her in that situation.
You are you: independent woman who enjoys pool, studies engineering, likes comedy. These things don't make you masculine at all.
Being feminine doesn't mean that we depend on a man to do something. It's just our softer, gentler side. It doesn't mean we're weak in any way either. Some of the strongest and toughest people I know are women who are pretty feminine in their own ways.
Your BF needs to work on himself and figure out what it means for him to be a man without having to force a woman to be a damsel in distress.
I was mad that she didn’t trust me, in my mind at the time I was like really? I go out and do try to do something good and this is how you react? Like would you give a person a ring that said they wanted divorce?
If you want really good advice, support and links to excellent resources copy and paste this to r/JUSTNOMIL You will be surprised to know how many have been in your position. Good luck ?
So it's time to tell her it's her turn to pay for dates and watch how fast she disappears. Bitch is using you.
Well communication (like you said) is what laid a solid foundation to him understanding this communication you have with your ex. She lacks communication. She knows it and always admits it. I have never been the overly jealous type. I don’t ever ask for her phone. This is just one of those situations where I had this gut feeling, the moment presented itself, and it just happened.
She knows I’m not the jealous type. All I ask for is respect and loyalty.
You haven't written how long you've been with him I think. And how long he was with his ex girlfriend.
I assume that the liked each other since they were just incompatible with something (I assume what they wanted for the future, sex needs ect).
I wouldn't necessarily think that he's still hung up on her because he opened the door for her and not you. I might just be a response in relation to the trauma, that he felt like he needed a person who either knew something related to the trauma or that knew him better. And she might know him better than you, if they were together for a long time and your relationship is fairly new. That doesn't mean she'll always know him better.
You say you and him have been talking about the trauma for the past 3 weeks so I assume he wants you to be his person since it's you he's talking to and opening up to. I think that it's a good idea next time you talk about his break down to bring up in a non confrontational way what made him want to be with her in that situation.
You are you: independent woman who enjoys pool, studies engineering, likes comedy. These things don't make you masculine at all.
Being feminine doesn't mean that we depend on a man to do something. It's just our softer, gentler side. It doesn't mean we're weak in any way either. Some of the strongest and toughest people I know are women who are pretty feminine in their own ways.
Your BF needs to work on himself and figure out what it means for him to be a man without having to force a woman to be a damsel in distress.
I was mad that she didn’t trust me, in my mind at the time I was like really? I go out and do try to do something good and this is how you react? Like would you give a person a ring that said they wanted divorce?
If you want really good advice, support and links to excellent resources copy and paste this to r/JUSTNOMIL You will be surprised to know how many have been in your position. Good luck ?