I don't normally comment on these things but maybe I can offer a bit of perspective from her side.
I was in her exact position at the same age but we'd been together for 7 years. It tore me to shreds to break up with him because I really thought he was the one. We were so in love. After year 6, no dice, I STILL hung out for another year, hoping hoping hoping he'd just bite the bullet. I put off so much waiting for him to come around. I was fully open about what I wanted and I thought he was too. I'd drive myself crazy thinking he'd do it on a camping trip or even out for a walk, or in our living room for heaven sakes! Year 6 Christmas he gave me a wooden box that looked like a ring box, my heart about exploded – he handed it to me and said, don't worry it's not a ring! (It was a necklace) and then my heart sunk, and I knew I had to end it.
My biggest mistake was not communicating with him more and prying more into why he was hesitant. I figured the ball was in his park and I didn't want to push him, knowing he loved me etc etc. After a while I started to feel like there was something wrong with me. Eventually I went to counselling, gained some confidence in myself and left. 29 is not a time in a woman's life to play games, especially if she wants kids. I loved him so much but I knew I had to leave because the reality was that he just wasn't there with me. When I broke up with him he said let's get married let's get married. By then I had become so apathetic and my emotions had been all used up about the idea, and it felt like he was grasping at straws. I walked out the door and didn't look back.
Pull up your big boy pants and have an honest conversation with yourself, and then her. The ball is definitely in YOUR park, not hers. This is clearly important to her, and part of being in a successful relationship is taking care of things that are important to your S/O. Let her know or let her go dude, or she will make the decision for you.
Block him. Piece of ?….he is only now using you to get off – please love and respect yourself some.
You are better than this. You are young and have your whole life to find someone who is lovely and nice, who will love you properly.
You clearly are smart, I mean, you moved a country for this person – this shows me that you are resilient and knowledgeable…..better than him on so many levels.
OP, your BF is the window his family sees you through. 100% he has either not talked about you, or he has only spoken badly of you.
I’m sorry that this jerk has wasted your time, but now is the time to find these things out. You can still step out of this situation and rebuild. He is stuck with that family and probably will never have a lasting relationship because of them.
So look at the bright side, you will have a full and happy life.
Uhhh… what is the worst thing that she thinks someone could do in a relationship?? Why is no one asking this?
I don't normally comment on these things but maybe I can offer a bit of perspective from her side.
I was in her exact position at the same age but we'd been together for 7 years. It tore me to shreds to break up with him because I really thought he was the one. We were so in love. After year 6, no dice, I STILL hung out for another year, hoping hoping hoping he'd just bite the bullet. I put off so much waiting for him to come around. I was fully open about what I wanted and I thought he was too. I'd drive myself crazy thinking he'd do it on a camping trip or even out for a walk, or in our living room for heaven sakes! Year 6 Christmas he gave me a wooden box that looked like a ring box, my heart about exploded – he handed it to me and said, don't worry it's not a ring! (It was a necklace) and then my heart sunk, and I knew I had to end it.
My biggest mistake was not communicating with him more and prying more into why he was hesitant. I figured the ball was in his park and I didn't want to push him, knowing he loved me etc etc. After a while I started to feel like there was something wrong with me. Eventually I went to counselling, gained some confidence in myself and left. 29 is not a time in a woman's life to play games, especially if she wants kids. I loved him so much but I knew I had to leave because the reality was that he just wasn't there with me. When I broke up with him he said let's get married let's get married. By then I had become so apathetic and my emotions had been all used up about the idea, and it felt like he was grasping at straws. I walked out the door and didn't look back.
Pull up your big boy pants and have an honest conversation with yourself, and then her. The ball is definitely in YOUR park, not hers. This is clearly important to her, and part of being in a successful relationship is taking care of things that are important to your S/O. Let her know or let her go dude, or she will make the decision for you.
Block him. Piece of ?….he is only now using you to get off – please love and respect yourself some.
You are better than this. You are young and have your whole life to find someone who is lovely and nice, who will love you properly.
You clearly are smart, I mean, you moved a country for this person – this shows me that you are resilient and knowledgeable…..better than him on so many levels.
OP, your BF is the window his family sees you through. 100% he has either not talked about you, or he has only spoken badly of you.
I’m sorry that this jerk has wasted your time, but now is the time to find these things out. You can still step out of this situation and rebuild. He is stuck with that family and probably will never have a lasting relationship because of them.
So look at the bright side, you will have a full and happy life.
OP’s GF is gullible. A m45 is offering Booze to a f20 at a beach because he wants something.
Oh so they’re crazy people. Ignore them. Be happy
You are in the first or second stage of grief… give it time..it heals..don't forget the lesson but..