I understand and thank you for your compassion. I always try to see the best of a person and maybe I placed this person somewhere they didn’t belong. From a few of the comments here I’ll take your advice and be classy about it. Just seeing them both pretty much everyday is a recurring nightmare, I wake up most nights as I have some tonight trying to analyse it in my head. The best part is, you can’t analyse an affair or what happens within it !! Thanks again
Look at it as spending 2k to support a friend, not the wedding. And google how to support someone in an abusive relationship, read some articles from reputable sources, and use that as a guide. Your best bet is to be there for her, not to offer solutions but to use validation and active listening skills to help her work through her circumstances and come to her own conclusions on what to do.
It is a good thing that his name isn’t on her birth certificate. Because if his name is on it and I leave with her and not come back, I would get kidnapping charges and would get arrested. That’s why he can’t do anything legally if his name isn’t on it. And I say “every girl needs her daddy” because I needed mine as a little girl and I don’t want her to deal with not knowing if daddy loves you or not.
If you want something to happen with the current guy communicate that. Ask your friends if they would be happy with their partners dating other people after agreeing to be exclusive. I would assume their answers would be different.
Dude. Life is too short. If you don’t have kids, let him go. Save both of yourselves from hating your lives.
If you're happy to take the risk of her developing feelings for someone other than you, go right on ahead, if not dont agree.
I understand and thank you for your compassion. I always try to see the best of a person and maybe I placed this person somewhere they didn’t belong. From a few of the comments here I’ll take your advice and be classy about it. Just seeing them both pretty much everyday is a recurring nightmare, I wake up most nights as I have some tonight trying to analyse it in my head. The best part is, you can’t analyse an affair or what happens within it !! Thanks again
Look at it as spending 2k to support a friend, not the wedding. And google how to support someone in an abusive relationship, read some articles from reputable sources, and use that as a guide. Your best bet is to be there for her, not to offer solutions but to use validation and active listening skills to help her work through her circumstances and come to her own conclusions on what to do.
It is a good thing that his name isn’t on her birth certificate. Because if his name is on it and I leave with her and not come back, I would get kidnapping charges and would get arrested. That’s why he can’t do anything legally if his name isn’t on it. And I say “every girl needs her daddy” because I needed mine as a little girl and I don’t want her to deal with not knowing if daddy loves you or not.
That's tough. Try not to let sunk costs fallacy prevent you from hanging onto hope.
I too am nursing a broken heart after years with someone. All you need to remember is that whatever he was is not who he is now.
I don't know what “right but odd at the same time” means.
Thank you
If you want something to happen with the current guy communicate that. Ask your friends if they would be happy with their partners dating other people after agreeing to be exclusive. I would assume their answers would be different.