It would probably feel better to have him say “because she's so fun to be with” or “because she's so smart” or “because she's so nice” or something like that, but I think what he's saying actually is something positive about you. It probably means that you're more tolerant of certain things or are more committed to your relationship or are better able to understand whatever he does to push people away and not let it affect you. So I think that is part of who you are.
It also doesn't mean that there aren't plenty of other things he likes about you. I think it might be more that he's aware of things that he does that often drive women away and is very happy that you're unique in that you're capable of dealing with whatever those are.
As long as he treats you well and you're happy being with him, I wouldn't worry about the way he described that. Maybe it would seem more positive to you if he said “because she's so patient” or “because she's so tolerant” or something like that, but I think the way he said it is more that he's pointing out that he knows he has flaws than it is that he doesn't appreciate the good things about you.
she said she thinks we are culturally incompatible
I can't help but agree. I don't think this situation is insurmountable, most people have gotten a little too drunk at a family gathering and a sincere apology could probably smooth it over, but as you get more serious this is going to continue coming up as an issue.
Have you two had a full conversation about your differences in faith? Have you talked about how you would navigate that if you got married or had kids? If you struggle to be in a church, which is perfectly valid, is she okay with you skipping that part of her family traditions? I think it's time for a more comprehensive discussion about your beliefs and whether or not the differences are sustainable.
Sitting at the front during the ceremony is my guess. I feel for the OP, clearly she valued the friend more than the friend values her. She’s already into bridezilla mode, thinking her wedding needs a certain look, a look her “friend” doesn’t fit into. If it were me I would tell the friend how hurt I was, then distance myself from her. Because who really needs a friend like that. Wish her well, and just step away. It sucks because they have been friends for so long, but it would be more painful, and maybe lead to securities the op doesn’t need if she watched from the sidelines.
Hell, I wouldn't rule out drugs either. It takes A LOT of alcohol to completely black out to where there aren't even dots to connect the next morning. I don't think I've ever gotten that drunk and I drank way too much in college.
But, there is still a core belief that men can't be raped by women, even if we as a society are slowly learning how untrue that is. It's going to take a long time until “that sounds like rape” is the top and overwhelming response to situations like this.
Thank you!? That is the TRUTH about strangers being supportive. They’ve made it clear they don’t like my success with my approach…I post every day or every other day, occasionally taking breaks
You already tried talking to him about it and he said you were complaining. What did you say to him? Did you make it clear that you wanted reciprocation? The part where he said you shouldn’t tell him you love giving head if it’s not true, this tells me maybe there was a misunderstanding and maybe you didn’t make your point clearly. Talk to him again and tell him you love giving him head but you want to do other things in bed too. If he still brushes it off, he’s not the one. Your needs are just as important as his and if he is too immature to care if your needs are being met, seriously he is not the one. There are other guys who would love a woman like you and would gladly reciprocate.
I usually just blow him until he cums but really hoping he wants to fuck me without me asking.
The way this is worded it sounds like you just go down on him and secretly hope for him to stop you, or to fuck you after he cums. First of all, he’s not going to know you want to get fucked without you asking. When his D is in your mouth you have more power than you know, don’t let him cum until you cum. Second, it’s rare a guy can keep going after he cums, so seriously do not let it get to that point. Stop the BJ and tell him you want him.
She is going to give me another opportunity, I know she is. However, it’s going to be a long road. She held my hand yesterday and was talking about all the things we need to do to the house. Her best friend, and also my best friend, talked to her yesterday and said, listen, you really need to give him another chance to make things right. She looked at her and said, yeah, you’re right. She just said I’m exhausted. My friend looked at her and said I have been to that point with Zach, (my best friend) and said I fell in love with him again though.
Same thing happened to me and my boyfriend. An ex-friend of his ended up hacking his social media and dating apps to make it look like he was trying to hookup with other women. I absolutely though he cheated on me but gave him the opportunity to prove his innocence since he was so adamant he didn’t do it. His friend admitted it all to me, my boyfriend, his mom, and my boyfriend’s mom. People can do crazy things to try to ruin someone’s life just to get back at them.
But some spy cameras immediately
They also have family that are available to help. They aren’t desperate or have no other option.
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It would probably feel better to have him say “because she's so fun to be with” or “because she's so smart” or “because she's so nice” or something like that, but I think what he's saying actually is something positive about you. It probably means that you're more tolerant of certain things or are more committed to your relationship or are better able to understand whatever he does to push people away and not let it affect you. So I think that is part of who you are.
It also doesn't mean that there aren't plenty of other things he likes about you. I think it might be more that he's aware of things that he does that often drive women away and is very happy that you're unique in that you're capable of dealing with whatever those are.
As long as he treats you well and you're happy being with him, I wouldn't worry about the way he described that. Maybe it would seem more positive to you if he said “because she's so patient” or “because she's so tolerant” or something like that, but I think the way he said it is more that he's pointing out that he knows he has flaws than it is that he doesn't appreciate the good things about you.
maybe he… just wants to know where you’re from
she said she thinks we are culturally incompatible
I can't help but agree. I don't think this situation is insurmountable, most people have gotten a little too drunk at a family gathering and a sincere apology could probably smooth it over, but as you get more serious this is going to continue coming up as an issue.
Have you two had a full conversation about your differences in faith? Have you talked about how you would navigate that if you got married or had kids? If you struggle to be in a church, which is perfectly valid, is she okay with you skipping that part of her family traditions? I think it's time for a more comprehensive discussion about your beliefs and whether or not the differences are sustainable.
Sure
We all are!! And lucky enough that she had three healthy pregnancies/deliveries since. Mom has been there for every one❤️
Sitting at the front during the ceremony is my guess. I feel for the OP, clearly she valued the friend more than the friend values her. She’s already into bridezilla mode, thinking her wedding needs a certain look, a look her “friend” doesn’t fit into. If it were me I would tell the friend how hurt I was, then distance myself from her. Because who really needs a friend like that. Wish her well, and just step away. It sucks because they have been friends for so long, but it would be more painful, and maybe lead to securities the op doesn’t need if she watched from the sidelines.
Hell, I wouldn't rule out drugs either. It takes A LOT of alcohol to completely black out to where there aren't even dots to connect the next morning. I don't think I've ever gotten that drunk and I drank way too much in college.
But, there is still a core belief that men can't be raped by women, even if we as a society are slowly learning how untrue that is. It's going to take a long time until “that sounds like rape” is the top and overwhelming response to situations like this.
Don’t let her or anyone see it before you have proof or they’l call you a pervert and make things worse.
Thank you!? That is the TRUTH about strangers being supportive. They’ve made it clear they don’t like my success with my approach…I post every day or every other day, occasionally taking breaks
You already tried talking to him about it and he said you were complaining. What did you say to him? Did you make it clear that you wanted reciprocation? The part where he said you shouldn’t tell him you love giving head if it’s not true, this tells me maybe there was a misunderstanding and maybe you didn’t make your point clearly. Talk to him again and tell him you love giving him head but you want to do other things in bed too. If he still brushes it off, he’s not the one. Your needs are just as important as his and if he is too immature to care if your needs are being met, seriously he is not the one. There are other guys who would love a woman like you and would gladly reciprocate.
I usually just blow him until he cums but really hoping he wants to fuck me without me asking.
The way this is worded it sounds like you just go down on him and secretly hope for him to stop you, or to fuck you after he cums. First of all, he’s not going to know you want to get fucked without you asking. When his D is in your mouth you have more power than you know, don’t let him cum until you cum. Second, it’s rare a guy can keep going after he cums, so seriously do not let it get to that point. Stop the BJ and tell him you want him.
She is going to give me another opportunity, I know she is. However, it’s going to be a long road. She held my hand yesterday and was talking about all the things we need to do to the house. Her best friend, and also my best friend, talked to her yesterday and said, listen, you really need to give him another chance to make things right. She looked at her and said, yeah, you’re right. She just said I’m exhausted. My friend looked at her and said I have been to that point with Zach, (my best friend) and said I fell in love with him again though.
Same thing happened to me and my boyfriend. An ex-friend of his ended up hacking his social media and dating apps to make it look like he was trying to hookup with other women. I absolutely though he cheated on me but gave him the opportunity to prove his innocence since he was so adamant he didn’t do it. His friend admitted it all to me, my boyfriend, his mom, and my boyfriend’s mom. People can do crazy things to try to ruin someone’s life just to get back at them.