both me and my girlfriend went to him to set boundaries (separately) and he gave us both very different answers.
Not really. He told you that you were overthinking and he asked her if she was uncomfortable and told her you seem possessive. Those things can all go together.
The bigger question is if he is being honest or if he is just trying to dismiss your concerns. Either way, you've let him know what you're feeling. It's up to him whether he changes his behaviour.
Wouldn’t be suprised if the sister hasn’t done this before.
Honestly, this sounds petty, but I think you need to loudly call out your SIL and honestly throw in some mean ness like (I would never find someone like you attractive you are gross blah blah. You sister is everything and blah blah. And don’t ever try to contact us again) basically embarrass and insult the sister, praise your wife. In either a group chat or family group chat.
This seems crazy BUT the lil sis is a mean girl bully who is trying to get validation from hurting ur wife and etc. THIS WILL WORK IN KICKING HER OFF HER HIGH HORSE. and will help reassure your wife. So at that point, y’all go to therapy or make a plan to be intentional and build back ur relationship.
But looking down on the sister for what she did and calling her out, would help stop her from gloating and embarrass her. Which might help a lil…
I’m gonna tell you I don’t think this is going to last. First off, you started dating somebody that it just knocked up another girl so your morals are not on any high ground. And I wouldn’t want you anywhere near my baby if I were her. I think she was trying to be generous in the beginning, but as her child grew she wanted to have a regular life with her baby and the baby’s father. Without you. It’s really reasonable and frankly, you don’t deserve to be a part of anything.
If you marry him, and I have high doubts about that at this point, but if you do, the child will eventually visit you yes. Probably not for a few years. a lot of babies stay with their mom and until three years old before they go someplace else. I would stay in your own lane and just try to be respectful. You may notice that your boyfriend starts to get a little bit distant to as the baby comes in. He realizes he’s part of the family.
In general do not send sexy pictures – call him rather and say something sexy to him.
both me and my girlfriend went to him to set boundaries (separately) and he gave us both very different answers.
Not really. He told you that you were overthinking and he asked her if she was uncomfortable and told her you seem possessive. Those things can all go together.
The bigger question is if he is being honest or if he is just trying to dismiss your concerns. Either way, you've let him know what you're feeling. It's up to him whether he changes his behaviour.
Her sister is fucking evil.
Wouldn’t be suprised if the sister hasn’t done this before.
Honestly, this sounds petty, but I think you need to loudly call out your SIL and honestly throw in some mean ness like (I would never find someone like you attractive you are gross blah blah. You sister is everything and blah blah. And don’t ever try to contact us again) basically embarrass and insult the sister, praise your wife. In either a group chat or family group chat.
This seems crazy BUT the lil sis is a mean girl bully who is trying to get validation from hurting ur wife and etc. THIS WILL WORK IN KICKING HER OFF HER HIGH HORSE. and will help reassure your wife. So at that point, y’all go to therapy or make a plan to be intentional and build back ur relationship.
But looking down on the sister for what she did and calling her out, would help stop her from gloating and embarrass her. Which might help a lil…
Are you sure “impressed” is the right word? I kinda lean to dismayed.
I’m gonna tell you I don’t think this is going to last. First off, you started dating somebody that it just knocked up another girl so your morals are not on any high ground. And I wouldn’t want you anywhere near my baby if I were her. I think she was trying to be generous in the beginning, but as her child grew she wanted to have a regular life with her baby and the baby’s father. Without you. It’s really reasonable and frankly, you don’t deserve to be a part of anything.
If you marry him, and I have high doubts about that at this point, but if you do, the child will eventually visit you yes. Probably not for a few years. a lot of babies stay with their mom and until three years old before they go someplace else. I would stay in your own lane and just try to be respectful. You may notice that your boyfriend starts to get a little bit distant to as the baby comes in. He realizes he’s part of the family.
what's the update? did she wake up on time to go to work or was she late and now blames you?