Your story is suspicious as hell, it definitely sounds from an outside perspective like you're cheating on him with the brother. Why were you hanging out with him alone at his house and taking a shower? Why were you hanging out with him while he was just wearing a towel? Of course your husband is going to assume that means you slept together, just like any fucking adult would. You're not doing yourself any favors by still being so weirdly close to your brother in law when your husband has already expressed (several times, sounds like) that he's uncomfortable with it. And also you make it sound like the “hugging” or whatever your husband is upset about is more than just a familial hug that you'd give any relative, and if you're making it sound that weird in your own story then I can only imagine how it looks to your husband and family. You're lying about something for sure, especially considering you're trying to claim that “paternity tests are difficult because theyre brothers”. The only reason you would have to say that is if you know that one of your kids doesn't belong to your husband. Hopefully your husband is smart enough to know that you're wrong about the paternity test, and hopefully he figures out which of his kids are actually his and gets rid of your sketchy ass.
Fuck that. I am not gonna be the person moving cities for someone just to find out they had been cuddling and god knows what else right until I came thru the door. Leave her.
But fyi, best not to say you were the woman of the relationship.
You are not JEALOUS at all, your husband is a LOW-LIFE CHEATING PIECE OF SHIT. Your marriage is over, your husband by even considering to go this trip is telling you that your marriage, your child and you don't mean SHIT.
Even if he changes his mind, his ASS have proven that he can't be TRUSTED. In my opinion let him go and move on with your life.
Ok this is much clear . You need to get away from this person ASAP . My initial point around taking care of your mental health and seeking help / therapy / support still stands .
The less you think about him – the better it is . By being angry you are hurting yourself only ..
They guy dumped you and went no contact. Why would you even think about contacting this guy? He’s probably with someone anyway. The best thing would be speaking to your husband and suggesting couples counselling, not lusting after some guy that dumped you 6 years ago.
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Your story is suspicious as hell, it definitely sounds from an outside perspective like you're cheating on him with the brother. Why were you hanging out with him alone at his house and taking a shower? Why were you hanging out with him while he was just wearing a towel? Of course your husband is going to assume that means you slept together, just like any fucking adult would. You're not doing yourself any favors by still being so weirdly close to your brother in law when your husband has already expressed (several times, sounds like) that he's uncomfortable with it. And also you make it sound like the “hugging” or whatever your husband is upset about is more than just a familial hug that you'd give any relative, and if you're making it sound that weird in your own story then I can only imagine how it looks to your husband and family. You're lying about something for sure, especially considering you're trying to claim that “paternity tests are difficult because theyre brothers”. The only reason you would have to say that is if you know that one of your kids doesn't belong to your husband. Hopefully your husband is smart enough to know that you're wrong about the paternity test, and hopefully he figures out which of his kids are actually his and gets rid of your sketchy ass.
She’s not clueless!! She knows what she is doing.
I'd tell them to mind their business. They're calling him toxic for being motivated to go to the gym. Your friends are the problem.
Possible Cheating, gaslighting, manipulation, controlling, love bomber behaviour. Sounds like a catch.
Says who?
Fuck that. I am not gonna be the person moving cities for someone just to find out they had been cuddling and god knows what else right until I came thru the door. Leave her.
But fyi, best not to say you were the woman of the relationship.
Lots of divorces happen once the wife starts to earn more than the husband.
You are not JEALOUS at all, your husband is a LOW-LIFE CHEATING PIECE OF SHIT. Your marriage is over, your husband by even considering to go this trip is telling you that your marriage, your child and you don't mean SHIT.
Even if he changes his mind, his ASS have proven that he can't be TRUSTED. In my opinion let him go and move on with your life.
Ok this is much clear . You need to get away from this person ASAP . My initial point around taking care of your mental health and seeking help / therapy / support still stands .
The less you think about him – the better it is . By being angry you are hurting yourself only ..
They guy dumped you and went no contact. Why would you even think about contacting this guy? He’s probably with someone anyway. The best thing would be speaking to your husband and suggesting couples counselling, not lusting after some guy that dumped you 6 years ago.