Look if he's gone overboard with nicknames and texts, disrespected your requests on things like not to wake you up, then really you need to either just break up or talk to him. Send him a list with clear boundaries – then when he doesn't listen you break up.
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There is nothing more aggrevating than a partner who is entirely passive and communicates by reading between the lines.
You're literally married, you obviously already had a sex life with him beforehand so why are you surprised now?
Yes SOME guys do feel pressure to not initiate sex every 5 minutes because we don't want our partners to feel like they're just good for sex. But not all guys have a high libido like that.
You cannot be scared of rejection at this point. If you feel dejected he's not initiating more, how do you think he feels when YOU never initiate? It goes both ways. He might be feeling unwanted or unattractive or just plain feels like you're not interested so he's backing off. you never know unless you talk. STOP habitually trying to “read the signs” of his interest and ASK him directly, but gently.
So you are critical of your bf because of his music taste?
How do you know that your taste is a “cool” as you think it is? What criteria are you using to decide that your taste is “cool” and his taste is “shit”?
These bands would not still be played on the radio if they were no good.
Sounds like you have a weird fixation on his music taste that is oddly blinkered.
Chill. You listen to your stuff and let him listen to his.
Was there anything about him that told you he wasn’t the one?
Just tell him. Talk to him about it. He’s unemployed. You’re under-employed. Money is money.
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Look if he's gone overboard with nicknames and texts, disrespected your requests on things like not to wake you up, then really you need to either just break up or talk to him. Send him a list with clear boundaries – then when he doesn't listen you break up.
Guess the drugs didn’t kill his libido that night.
You have to decide if you can forgive him. He crossed so many boundaries. This would be my hill to die on.
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Thanks. Yes even now I know about it, whenever he’s on his phone or out the room I’m thinking that’s what he’s doing.
There is nothing more aggrevating than a partner who is entirely passive and communicates by reading between the lines.
You're literally married, you obviously already had a sex life with him beforehand so why are you surprised now?
Yes SOME guys do feel pressure to not initiate sex every 5 minutes because we don't want our partners to feel like they're just good for sex. But not all guys have a high libido like that.
You cannot be scared of rejection at this point. If you feel dejected he's not initiating more, how do you think he feels when YOU never initiate? It goes both ways. He might be feeling unwanted or unattractive or just plain feels like you're not interested so he's backing off. you never know unless you talk. STOP habitually trying to “read the signs” of his interest and ASK him directly, but gently.
I hope 2023 is a great year for you! Or at least, not as bad as last year
Hey, who won – you or Marge?
Sorry …..
If it helps, in return for a REAL response, I can pretend to be as besotted with you as your ex/current BF was/is/will-be besotted with Marge.
Also …. please un-delete your post or just repost it.
INFO: is he in therapy for his OCD or medicated?
So you are critical of your bf because of his music taste?
How do you know that your taste is a “cool” as you think it is? What criteria are you using to decide that your taste is “cool” and his taste is “shit”?
These bands would not still be played on the radio if they were no good.
Sounds like you have a weird fixation on his music taste that is oddly blinkered.
Chill. You listen to your stuff and let him listen to his.
I didn't even realise I was downvoted. disappointing.
I didn't even realise I was downvoted. disappointing.