I dont see any other reason why would you not want so spend more time with someone you are just getting to know and getting into relationship with, other than not being into him/her that much.
You also agreed to seeing each other three times a week, didnt ya? Words are easy
This is my advice to you, I'm assuming you share custody? Idk where you are, but there are many apps for coparents, my friend mentioned she used ourfamilywizard app. My suggestion is to not have any contact with her outside coparenting app. Tell her that you are not willing to be harassed by her and from now on, you will only talk to her via coparenting app(unless you're still unable to really learn to “let go” and you're secretly 'enjoying' the drama–if this is the case, please know that by going back and forth with her will prolong your pain and suffering). Idk if you've gone through family court for custody hearing or whatnot, but I've heard family court judges actually recommending coparenting app for parents who have volatile relationship.
This is the thing, as someone who has been betrayed (with my ex) whom I gave everything to. There's no easy way to go through the pain…but to go through it. I know what you mean when you say therapy doesn't feel like it changes anything (the pain, anger, etc). I went through it. You just had to keep going, and if you don't care for your therapist, find another one. It's not an easy process. It'll take awhile for you to heal. Time will help with the pain, I promise as much, but even then, from time to time, you get that 'pang' when you're reminded. It'll be a process.
Focus the good thing in your life, your child, your family and friends. Take your time healing, day by day. But you need to 'let go' of her. Do not talk to her outside the child, that's all.
It’s not even that I want a shrine. I just figured i’d get at least once post in the year we’ve been together ? It makes me feel shitty because he literally had a shrine of his ex when we were still dating
You shouldn’t have told the friend.
You need to cease all communication with them.
I dont see any other reason why would you not want so spend more time with someone you are just getting to know and getting into relationship with, other than not being into him/her that much.
You also agreed to seeing each other three times a week, didnt ya? Words are easy
This is my advice to you, I'm assuming you share custody? Idk where you are, but there are many apps for coparents, my friend mentioned she used ourfamilywizard app. My suggestion is to not have any contact with her outside coparenting app. Tell her that you are not willing to be harassed by her and from now on, you will only talk to her via coparenting app(unless you're still unable to really learn to “let go” and you're secretly 'enjoying' the drama–if this is the case, please know that by going back and forth with her will prolong your pain and suffering). Idk if you've gone through family court for custody hearing or whatnot, but I've heard family court judges actually recommending coparenting app for parents who have volatile relationship.
This is the thing, as someone who has been betrayed (with my ex) whom I gave everything to. There's no easy way to go through the pain…but to go through it. I know what you mean when you say therapy doesn't feel like it changes anything (the pain, anger, etc). I went through it. You just had to keep going, and if you don't care for your therapist, find another one. It's not an easy process. It'll take awhile for you to heal. Time will help with the pain, I promise as much, but even then, from time to time, you get that 'pang' when you're reminded. It'll be a process.
Focus the good thing in your life, your child, your family and friends. Take your time healing, day by day. But you need to 'let go' of her. Do not talk to her outside the child, that's all.
It’s not even that I want a shrine. I just figured i’d get at least once post in the year we’ve been together ? It makes me feel shitty because he literally had a shrine of his ex when we were still dating