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But should I be put in a situation where I have to deal with this? I know for a fact my wife wouldn't like me attending a party where any of my exes would be in attendance. She has made it clear multiple times.
Probably. But I haven't met her, so I can't say for sure.
I've already explained how I deal with conflict. So, I likely would have already had a talk to her about hurt feelings by now.
As for her personality? I can't say I know anyone without their flaws, myself included. The older I get, the more tolerant I am of mistakes, and the less tolerant I am of people who refuse to self-improve.
I'd only (personally) find her personality unbearable in a friendship if I confronted her about a conflict, and she refused to consider that she might be at fault (just as I should refelct on how I might be at fault too).
A willingness to acknowledge your mistakes and self-improve is a much better sign of decency than simply making mistakes. Making mistakes is human.
NOPE! That's wrong on many levels. If she can't understand this then she's either thick as fuck or actually wants to do this. Definitely red flags ahoy
Well, her life is “dull” while he was a “spark”. That is not good.
Yes, she has refused ro make it anything more then random meeting, that is good. However what will happen when she gets feelings like this towards someone that will stay in her life, coworker in the future for example?
There is no good answer for me give you, I think unless you get out from your current situation, your relationship will not survive. Although that is a common sense in a way, if someone has their needs unfullfilled by their partner for long enough, their relationship will start to erode.
I mean was this completely out of the norm for her or a once a week type thing? If it was completely out of the norm, you definitely could’ve responded better and looked at it from a long term point of view( for the sake of healthiness/advancement/maintenance on the relationship) rather than a short term point of view (for the sake of being tired for just one day).
If it is a regular occurrence, well then its understood to prioritize the sleep thing this time.
Let me ask you this: will you be able to forgive and forget? When you see him around your sister at family functions or whatever, will you not think of this situation and not let those pesky doubts enter your mind?
If the answer is no, then you know what you need to do.
I really wanted to know should I be happy about this ? This is the first time I’ve been happy In so long but it kinda feels wrong at the same time
Step 1: lubricate the door hinges so nothing squeaks Step 2: if you are only peeing, don’t flush the toilet – if its yellow, let it mellow
Problem = solved
the fact that you're considering overlooking racism just because someone is attractive is a red flag but you do you I guess.
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But should I be put in a situation where I have to deal with this? I know for a fact my wife wouldn't like me attending a party where any of my exes would be in attendance. She has made it clear multiple times.
Yeah, if he was contacting sex workers it's not to get help moving a couch… it's to pay for sex.
You have to decide if you are okay being with someone who pays for sex while you are together – or not.
He is 100% going to lie about it, so don't bother trying to get closure or proof. Just decide what you will or won't accept.
Probably. But I haven't met her, so I can't say for sure.
I've already explained how I deal with conflict. So, I likely would have already had a talk to her about hurt feelings by now.
As for her personality? I can't say I know anyone without their flaws, myself included. The older I get, the more tolerant I am of mistakes, and the less tolerant I am of people who refuse to self-improve.
I'd only (personally) find her personality unbearable in a friendship if I confronted her about a conflict, and she refused to consider that she might be at fault (just as I should refelct on how I might be at fault too).
A willingness to acknowledge your mistakes and self-improve is a much better sign of decency than simply making mistakes. Making mistakes is human.
He’s a manipulator. And the fact that you keep falling for it lets him know it’s working. He’s only going to get worse.
You still don’t get it. That’s what your “bestie” is doing.
Stand your ground.
If you make it okay to be angry at every little thing, she will continue to do so.
If you stop catering to that, she either has to accept your idiosyncrasies(that we all have) or figure out she can’t.
You can also stand your ground and defuse a situation.
If she starts to blow up, that’s her decision. You are allowed to leave her to her tantrum and come back when she isn’t high on emotions.
No because if she vomits she could choke and die
NOPE! That's wrong on many levels. If she can't understand this then she's either thick as fuck or actually wants to do this. Definitely red flags ahoy
Well, her life is “dull” while he was a “spark”. That is not good.
Yes, she has refused ro make it anything more then random meeting, that is good. However what will happen when she gets feelings like this towards someone that will stay in her life, coworker in the future for example?
There is no good answer for me give you, I think unless you get out from your current situation, your relationship will not survive. Although that is a common sense in a way, if someone has their needs unfullfilled by their partner for long enough, their relationship will start to erode.
I mean was this completely out of the norm for her or a once a week type thing? If it was completely out of the norm, you definitely could’ve responded better and looked at it from a long term point of view( for the sake of healthiness/advancement/maintenance on the relationship) rather than a short term point of view (for the sake of being tired for just one day).
If it is a regular occurrence, well then its understood to prioritize the sleep thing this time.
Let me ask you this: will you be able to forgive and forget? When you see him around your sister at family functions or whatever, will you not think of this situation and not let those pesky doubts enter your mind?
If the answer is no, then you know what you need to do.