Humm…that is interesting. Without knowing the field, it is hot to guess why they think that way. I'm guessing they are simply full of themselves and their life choices.
But I would definitely confront girlfriend. Ask her why. Ask her if she used to talk bad about your career, etc.
I want to have some clear proposal on what more I could do before sitting down with her and discuss it. That way, if she ask me what I think I could do more, I will have a concrete answer.
“Hey babe, idk what changed over the past few weeks but I’ve noticed a really strong urine smell coming off you. And I don’t just mean down there, it’s coming from your hair, body, etc. I can’t even cuddle you without smelling it. I didn’t say anything sooner because I wasn’t sure if it was just me at first, or maybe our detergent or your soaps, but it’s not going away, so we need to figure this out and make sure it’s not something medical”.
You’ve been together 4 years, there’s no reason this conversation should be this nude. You’re letting the man walk around smelling like piss. He’s going to be more upset about going out for weeks smelling like this, and you not telling him, than you actually telling him he smells. I know my husband would be like you really let me walk around smelling like that?
Communication is key in any relationship and if you can’t communicate with him about something as little as this, that’s an issue. I’ve been with my husband 13 years and let me just tell you, we don’t even bat an eye if we have to be like, you smell, go wash up. It’s truly not a big deal and like I said I guarantee you he’ll be more upset you let him walk around smelling all this time, so be prepared for that.
At the end of the day they are prioritizing others peoples comfort and happiness over yours because of their backwards thinking. Only you can decide if that’s something you can accept
Please leave him so he has a chance to date someone who isn’t toxic and get yourself some therapy for your insecurity. You are emotionally abusive, dismissive of his feelings, and controlling.
Does he feel self conscious, like other guys will make fun of him or tease him? Maybe he has a friend who just got dumped? Is is not yet self assured?
Yeah it's just nude since it was my 20s and so I feel a loss of identity. I'm going into counselling to find answers though
That's what he says to you.
He didn't know he was allergic to cats.
Humm…that is interesting. Without knowing the field, it is hot to guess why they think that way. I'm guessing they are simply full of themselves and their life choices.
But I would definitely confront girlfriend. Ask her why. Ask her if she used to talk bad about your career, etc.
I want to have some clear proposal on what more I could do before sitting down with her and discuss it. That way, if she ask me what I think I could do more, I will have a concrete answer.
“Hey babe, idk what changed over the past few weeks but I’ve noticed a really strong urine smell coming off you. And I don’t just mean down there, it’s coming from your hair, body, etc. I can’t even cuddle you without smelling it. I didn’t say anything sooner because I wasn’t sure if it was just me at first, or maybe our detergent or your soaps, but it’s not going away, so we need to figure this out and make sure it’s not something medical”.
You’ve been together 4 years, there’s no reason this conversation should be this nude. You’re letting the man walk around smelling like piss. He’s going to be more upset about going out for weeks smelling like this, and you not telling him, than you actually telling him he smells. I know my husband would be like you really let me walk around smelling like that?
Communication is key in any relationship and if you can’t communicate with him about something as little as this, that’s an issue. I’ve been with my husband 13 years and let me just tell you, we don’t even bat an eye if we have to be like, you smell, go wash up. It’s truly not a big deal and like I said I guarantee you he’ll be more upset you let him walk around smelling all this time, so be prepared for that.
Your comments have given me helpful insight as to how she might be feeling. Thank you!
At the end of the day they are prioritizing others peoples comfort and happiness over yours because of their backwards thinking. Only you can decide if that’s something you can accept
Surprise! You cheated with him and now you're cheating on him.
Best thing to do? Be single and then you can sleep with whomever you want or look for an open/poly relationship.
Please leave him so he has a chance to date someone who isn’t toxic and get yourself some therapy for your insecurity. You are emotionally abusive, dismissive of his feelings, and controlling.