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It definitely is. I couldn’t even go into a church without breaking into a rash for 10 years! Until I found a loving inclusive one, the strictness of this and conditional acceptance is very upsetting
Thank you. This is a good advice.
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You're so young, and I don't mean that in a condescending way. Get out of this relationship, there are better men out there.
You've been with her for 5 years but you've never met her best friend?
Ask him what he would do if it turns out to be not his. After he answers, tell him that is exactly what you want him to do when it turns out to be his.
I think therapy is a must (individual) before you marry. You have always pictured your life with children. I know you love her but really chids aren't something you compromise on. One person will feel like they got the raw end of the deal. You don't have want in 5-10yrs to feel regret and resentment towards her because you don't have kids.
A lot of people in my family are CF (Child free) and the ones that do have children have always wanted kids. Quite a few of the CF people have gone to therapy to make sure deep down there are CF and won't regret not having kids. You only just now are seeing life without kids as an option because your afraid of losing her. It's a rash decision to make without deep reflection. Please seek help to search your own feelings because obviously deep down the thought of no kids did hurt you. Your reaction shows it's more important then your acting.
Before you talk, your daughters dress needs to be returned, untouched or damaged. Then consider talking.
If not scorched earth.
It definitely is. I couldn’t even go into a church without breaking into a rash for 10 years! Until I found a loving inclusive one, the strictness of this and conditional acceptance is very upsetting