Communicate this sentiment. It'll work as damage control. My understanding is that most couples maybe cuddle a bit while they're awake but then after a few minutes they roll over to their respective sides to get some sleep, lol.
Well, but her circumstances have still changed dramatically, which likely means she is now feeling like she needs other friends. She is also presumably pretty busy, sorting out her new life, making new friends and getting on top of her new circumstances. I’m not trying to justify her actions, but in my experiences it is honestly pretty normal. You likely didn’t do anything wrong, she’s just in a different phase of her life.
I guess what surprises me most is, that you keep trying and trying, despite your ex friend’s clear lack of interest.
Covid depression lingering-effect. Lots of people dealing with it. The lockdowns caused more damage than getting covid would have. Essentially, the “cure” was worse than the illness. They are seeing this in schoolchildren a lot now, too, from having been out of school. Too bad nobody listened to those who were warning of this during the lockdowns. But, it was all blocked as “mIsInForMaTiOn” and censored.
It could be stress from her parents because no one's wants to fully furnish a 25 year olds personal life, I'd say if I were you make sure that's the case if not she's trying to take advantage of you plain and simple.
Like it or not, men and women can never truly be friends.
A great many love story….and cheating story…starts with sentences roughly along the lines of “We had always been the best of friends and I never even thought of him/her that way until one night when….”
If you disagree then you need to stop having relationships with men for whom this is a dealbreaker.
And then brace yourself for the stonecold reality for the majority of men, this is a dealbreaker.
And no…it's not “controlling”. It's not “insecure”. It is a recognition of life's objective realities, and a refusal to take on the risks of a relationship with a person who's beliefs and values diverge so sharply from your own.
If the men you want to be with have boundaries and requirements you must either respect those boundaries, or move on.
Just as they must respect yours.
When your boundaries clashed with your boyfriend's you and he both had a choice to make: Accept the other's boundaries, or end the relationship.
You accepted his boundaries and then snuck behind his back to violate them.
End it. You clearly value your friendship more than your boyfriend so just end it. And be classy about it because like it or not, you are the one who snuck behind HIS back.
Yeah he shouldn't have threatened you but chances are he can feel that you haven't been honest or respecting his boundaries.
Do you tend to be very nice to people who you feel are tricking you and violating your boundaries?
not your girl
Communicate this sentiment. It'll work as damage control. My understanding is that most couples maybe cuddle a bit while they're awake but then after a few minutes they roll over to their respective sides to get some sleep, lol.
Giving divorce papers in a last ditch effort to save you marriage sounds like fucking for virginity. Do you even hear yourself.
In regards to what if you cut him off you mean? He said he only wanted friendship.
Do you have any trusted older female friends to give you some emotional support. Aunts, cushions, mums friends?
Your not alone. Just be polite and firm.
Well, but her circumstances have still changed dramatically, which likely means she is now feeling like she needs other friends. She is also presumably pretty busy, sorting out her new life, making new friends and getting on top of her new circumstances. I’m not trying to justify her actions, but in my experiences it is honestly pretty normal. You likely didn’t do anything wrong, she’s just in a different phase of her life.
I guess what surprises me most is, that you keep trying and trying, despite your ex friend’s clear lack of interest.
You’ve no right to tell this guy anything. Ask your girlfriend to block him instead.
Covid depression lingering-effect. Lots of people dealing with it. The lockdowns caused more damage than getting covid would have. Essentially, the “cure” was worse than the illness. They are seeing this in schoolchildren a lot now, too, from having been out of school. Too bad nobody listened to those who were warning of this during the lockdowns. But, it was all blocked as “mIsInForMaTiOn” and censored.
It could be stress from her parents because no one's wants to fully furnish a 25 year olds personal life, I'd say if I were you make sure that's the case if not she's trying to take advantage of you plain and simple.
Mat be she is telling the truth, but your trust in her took a hit because of that. Are they friends?
Like it or not, men and women can never truly be friends.
A great many love story….and cheating story…starts with sentences roughly along the lines of “We had always been the best of friends and I never even thought of him/her that way until one night when….”
If you disagree then you need to stop having relationships with men for whom this is a dealbreaker.
And then brace yourself for the stonecold reality for the majority of men, this is a dealbreaker.
And no…it's not “controlling”. It's not “insecure”. It is a recognition of life's objective realities, and a refusal to take on the risks of a relationship with a person who's beliefs and values diverge so sharply from your own.
If the men you want to be with have boundaries and requirements you must either respect those boundaries, or move on.
Just as they must respect yours.
When your boundaries clashed with your boyfriend's you and he both had a choice to make: Accept the other's boundaries, or end the relationship.
You accepted his boundaries and then snuck behind his back to violate them.
End it. You clearly value your friendship more than your boyfriend so just end it. And be classy about it because like it or not, you are the one who snuck behind HIS back.
Yeah he shouldn't have threatened you but chances are he can feel that you haven't been honest or respecting his boundaries.
Do you tend to be very nice to people who you feel are tricking you and violating your boundaries?
I sure hope therapy goes better for you than the hearing test did.